<p>I tend to agree with Hysteron. Also I think if he wants to go to college he should. It sounds like the finances are not too much of an issue and it might be the absolute thing that turns him around in your eyes. Perhaps there is too much static in his “home” or “hometown” or “homestate” that is contributing to his disengagement. If he were my son I would try to ascertain where he sees himself in a year, in two years in terms of where would he live if he could be anywhere. What does he see himself doing? You might find a few small and midsize colleges in whatever area of the country he sees himself. If he engages and exhibits a glimmer of interest…go from there. From everything you’ve said, to me, living at home and going to a nearby community of state school is not the answer. He needs a goal somewhere in the future and the goal has to be his goal, not a parent goal. This is a tough, tough age and there could be any one of a dozen things happening in his school or with his friends that is contributing to his attitude. Even most seemingly well adjusted kids are under tremendous stresses emotionally and physically in high school.</p>