“the thought process that anyone not sharing what I ask of them is not worthy to be heard.” But that’s also saying, anyone who needs more info is somehow not properly respecting the OP. Breaking etiquette. Really?
CC is a discussion forum and it’s difficult when some OPs self edit or self restrict to the point where a discussion is crippled. There are certain key bullets that are needed, for others to both process what you are saying and then give relevant feedback. My own feeling is, if you don’t want go there, in the first place, then reconsider the original decision to start the thread purporting to tell your journey, but skipping various details.
There’s a lot that that original OP thread stated that, to me, shows some incomplete understanding. Eg, the idea that, as long as there are safeties, one can defend applying to hundreds of reaches. Or that this is all about what the kid likes and wants, without regard to what he’s qualified for, in those targets’ minds. “His preferences dictated.” Very common on CC, as if a badge of honor. But while you can choose any targets you wish and knead them any way that makes them seem reasonable, in the end, it is the colleges which choose their admits. Not how much you want them, you approve of them, but the reverse: how much you get them to want you. That takes a lot of understanding. More than the limited info in the CDS.
And Duke doesn’t lower it’s standards for Early apps. They don’t set their expectations aside. The better admit rate applies to kids who do pass full muster, who do “match.”
So we end up arguing about who’s following some etiquette.