Please stop claiming things I didn’t say ie. I never said that any rejection would feel good. I said both would feel like a rejection but in different ways. One still feels bad if a job doesn’t pan out after being interviewed or one does not get on the Olympic team after working for years on one’s sport which were the analogies I brought up as being equivalent to not getting into a school where the bar is based on stats. However, it may not feel the same in a personal manner because the candidate did not relate personal information to the committee for which the judgement is based. Sure you might have felt as if you made some bad decisions because you didn’t focus on a higher GPA etc but you didn’t go into the interview and explain how and why you chose to volunteer, perhaps going into detail on how an incident in your life caused you to reflect on why this particular work would be fulfilling to you and then you got rejected. The latter might very well cause you to question your judgement as well because now you shared your judgement on your reason for volunteering and what it brought you and how it made you grow with the hiring committee and they seemed to still prefer others anyway. You now couldn’t lambast that the competition were all just empty suits with high GPAs and test scores who had nothing else to offer since everyone shared their personal stories. It’s like a group of people sharing stories and some end up as friends while others are excluded from the friend group. They are different kinds of rejections and they feel different with the latter to some feeling more personal. Some might see it as they got to know me a little bit - not just my numbers and stats - and found me wanting. Not to say a student should feel this way but I can understand them taking it on a more personal level than they would if the decision were based solely on stats.
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