<p>My son’s gf is a year behind him. She tried pretty hard to convince our son to apply/attend the local state U. Fortunately, he wanted to reach higher. Now he is fairly certain he’s made his decision, and guess what – gf is saying SHE will be applying to that school in the fall. I like her, but she’s his first gf and I definitely don’t want him going off to college feeling tied down. Maybe we’ll get lucky and she won’t get in. OP, I feel for you. I agree, talking to the girl’s parents is not the right move. All you can do is talk to your son, leave the gf out of the discussion and instead focus on steering him toward the school that is best for his intended major/personal preferences.</p>