"Colleges that can't handle the truth"

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<p>Woodwork, come off it. Your’re the one who dragged your D back into this discussion in your post #35, whether as rhetorical technique for sympathy or claim “victim status” or whatever, I can not say. But the facts recounted simply do not matter. It’s as if Aghanis who suffered under the Taliban should be cut some slack if they still approve of honor killings. “Suffering” does not excuse an indefensible outlook. That fact that “your D is 17”–something you cite in both posts, whether as a bid for sympathy or under some notion that her age makes her immune to criticism–or “has an honest disagreement” are also completely irrelevant. I spent part of my childhood in the American south at a time when negative attitudes towards “Negroes” [if they were polite] were remarkably frank, open, and bigoted…and the term applies as to whether or not the speaker was 17 or 77.</p>

<p>Bigotry flourishes because of the co-dependence that those like your D provide. I have no desire to “understand” bigots or take their “comfort” into consideration.</p>

<p>I have gay friends. I have gay clients. My D has gay friends. She has gay classmates. They are not here to answer for themselves so I will lend them my voice. If the choice is between honoring them or worrying about your hurt feelings about the word “bigot,” then my choice is clear.</p>

<p>If someone doesn’t like the word “bigot,” then they have a number of choices, ranging all they way from getting out of the hot kitchen to changing their attitudes, with a couple of stops in between.</p>

<p>Racism, homophobia, anti-Semitism, etc. all flourish because too many people are too “nice” or feel it too awkard or think they’re “too well bred” to confront those whose behavior supports such attitudes. I’m having none of it.</p>

<p>FS, it’s your point #2 that’s problematic. You weight the person’s “comfort” far more than I do, to an ugly end and with ugly consequences.</p>

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<p>methinks on requesting dorm mates
While I understand requests of personality
disorganized/compulsive- druggie/non druggie- roommates who may just be getting to bed when their roommate is getting up- I disagree that colleges need to have available dorms for students who are uncomfortable about living someone depending on their economic level- their religion- their race- their sexual orientation- their disabilities or their nationality.
If you want control over those things- there are schools where you can have that.
Try Bob Jones University perhaps
If there is an emotional need to have a single room- than that should be considered when choosing the school- it seems that that may be the best solution .</p>

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<p>I’ll be adding no more to this forum. There’s too much hatred here. Adieu.</p>

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<p>oh, my poor silly thread gone horribly wrong.</p>

<p>Hey, I read the NY Times (magazine), spotted this:</p>

<p>To quote Tennessee Williams, “All cruel people describe themselves as paragons of frankness.”</p>

<p>and goodness, on the same page:</p>

<p>“…Aristotle, who cautioned that the virtue of honesty falls between two vices of excess, lying and tactlessness.”</p>

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<p>TD it’s nice to know that you do not discriminate when dishing out your righteous hate and anger. That’s means you are above it, I guess. But everybody’s got a cause and everyone with a cause is always right as rain. Not a few hotheads out there get on the go “by any means necessary,” still others “have a dream”; you know, looking for a real outcome in a real world. You don’t have to look long or hard to find out which one is still around when it comes time to pay the bill. As it is, anger is not a cause it’s a self-righteous attitude. There’s a whole lot of anger that hides behind the skirt of a cause but a good cause tolerates it at best, usually shuffles its feet and hikes its skirt to keep the soil off its hem. The past century is littered with mean suckers with good causes but it has been my experience that those who get things done, the ones who do the work, have no real interest in throwing mud in a pigpen; it is not in their nature–they see a puddle of mud and step over it…they don’t heave their concoctions at a passer-by who chooses not to join in. So you’ve looked over the mountain and become an angry guy who’s not gonna take it anymore, but of course everybody’s a real tough guy looking over the edge of their computer screen: Brave, strong and true, every last one. The internet is their preferred front line. They Rage on with passion. </p>

<p>I see I am over 450 posts now. That’s enough for me.</p>

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<p>Perhaps a “cantonment” was the right word after all. Safe & secure from all sorts of unpleasantness.</p>

<p>Fwiw, I don’t “hide” behind a computer screen. I would have said as much were the discussion face to face. And another nice rhetorical tactic, trying to switch the argument from the message to the messenger. I guess if you can’t defend the one, it leaves you little other choice.</p>

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<p>It was very disconcerting at Boston College, a Jesuit school, when I asked what life was like for non-Catholic students, specifically Jews. The admissions officer and the student representatives all replied that they offered Shabbat services, avoiding my actual question and quickly moving on to the next. Their lack of honesty left me with a bad taste in my mouth.</p>