<p>No one, except, my parents really have no idea who I am at this point. So that would be a problem. Moreover, Indian parents tend to pick women who will acknowledge their son’s supremacy in the household, and I cannot contemplate spending my life with someone submissive.</p>
<p>Props to you for being such a high achiever, please let us know where you will go once you start hearing from colleges and the aid that they’re willing to give you.</p>
<p>For sure mega, noone wants a wife who’s all submissive and “yes masta” type. I want a woman who’ll stand her ground and beat my ass. Tie me up and whip me like the dog that I am. Anyway, the thing about your parents is that they want a son with prestige yes? Well in that case, do you really think they’ll force you to go to rhodes when you can go to one of the top Universities or ivys? They wouldn’t want to tell their friends and family that would they? Of course not! Well I’m just basing this on assumption, but give it a thought.</p>
<p>Hahaha, well, I’m really not one for either extreme. Anyway, as to the prestige issue, yeah, it’s all about reputation, but I don’t know what’s more important. Their reputation for having a brilliant son or a moral son. I’m scared it’s the latter.</p>
<p>Many Asian parents are quite terrified of their kids marrying non-Asians, who they imagine will not treat them respectfully, allow them prolonged visits, defer to their opinions, etc. etc. It’s quite silly really. Just play along with them for now. When you are gone in the Fall, they will never be able to monitor your life. You sound like a smart and serious young man, I’m sure you will make well thought-out decisions.</p>
<p>Play along until you are out of their control, but always keep in mind that you do NOT agree with their views and that ultimately, once you are out of college, they have little to no control over you. Ensure your freedom during college through any means necesscary, put up with them until you have a degree and subsequently a job, but then stop tolerating their meddling and control.</p>
<p>Here’s hoping you make it to CMU. My S roommate from NJ, (2 years running) parents are from S. India. CMU has a big contingent of Indian, and racial/ethnic non-European nationalities. </p>
<p>College will be a whole new experience. Don’t worry.</p>
<p>That’s interesting about your parents wanting to move to where you go to college. My S had a HS friend (He looks Indian, but I never thought to ask) who went to Harvard, and his parents moved to Boston. His dad was a college professor, and I thought it was funny that he switched jobs just to be near his son, but the S was an only child, and I thought maybe it was just a happy coincidence. </p>
<p>I have thought about moving back north if all 3 of my kids end up there – I hope that’s not the same thing.</p>
<p>I wanted to mention that Google has an email service, gmail, that allows you to have other email addresses forwarded to it, and has a lot of storage online. And I think it’s free. One of my kids uses it.</p>
<p>I am gay. My parents, who are big homophobes, freaked out when I came out of the closet. They were really nasty. So I went back into the closet :D told them I overcame it. </p>
<p>Anyway, they restricted my internet, and disallowed me to chat with people on the net. (Hah! as if I did before they stopped me.)</p>
<p>I know this sounds cruel and nasty but, here is what I am going to do:
if my parents cant accept me as I am, then fine. I will play straight till they pay for college, pass, get a job, earn enough money and then throw it at their faces. :(</p>
<p>I dont think this experience has left me bitter it left me wounded. If my parents can hate me for being gay .then I think it would be better if we part ways. I know i will kill myself when I do this its going to hurt a lot but what else can I do ?? </p>
<p>I wonder how they will react when they find out that I ran away with a sexy stud 
hahahaha
.oops, wrong place to post this
.parents forum
.but who cares.</p>
<p>You think that’s rough? My mom and I are going to have a joint checking account.</p>
<p>Privacy in college, what, they are going to go into your dorm room? I don’t think so. They can’t monitor your calls, or your email in college, the professors won’t talk to them and will probably find them annoying</p>
<p>I always wonder about people that come here (my H came from Ireland) wanting the best for ther children, and then deny them the American experience, its almost cruel</p>
<p>If they move to your city where youc college is, you don’t have to meet them on their terms, especially if you are pulling your own weight money wise, and even then, be sooo busy, and so their feelings are hurt, big whoop, let them be hurt, you will legally be an adult and have the right to choose your future and your present, do not let them manipulate your emotions once you are in college, if mom cries, so what, if dad yells, so what, they don’t care about your feelings at all, and you need o learn that you are not responsible for their happiness, they are, and you don’t need to date, marry, or anything, anyone you don’t want to</p>
<p>Oh yeah, what ecs do you do? If your school does a musical in the spring do it!! It is a great place to hang out, interact with the female types and take part in a school program</p>
<p>You can do stage crew, lights, painting, music, whatever you can, there are lots of rehearsals, evening programs, a party, and if you play it right, you can convince them it is important to the school and your counselor suggested it 9a white lie, but if you talk to your counselor about it, well then…)</p>
<p>This is worth a shot, is not boring and really fun people do acting and musicals</p>
<p>Man, I feel foolish now when I get angry over being told what to do by my parents. The differences in philsophy I have pale in comparison to that. Hang in there man, it sounds like you have a bright future. They can be a strong part of it if they’ll do so on your terms.</p>
<p>Got news for you kid: All females get what they want from males by giving you (males) the impressiom that they are “submissive.” The ethnicity, racial, social backround has nothing to do with match making and all the other baggage. </p>
<p>The sooner that you recognize that the female rules, the easier your life will be.</p>
<p>Just look at the number of posts in CC that are from mothers and girls. They far outnumber the number of posts from males. Also there is an inordinate number of posts of mother’s concerning sons, more so than mothers and daughters and definitely fathers to either of their son or daughter. </p>
<p>Its just the way it is. Get use to it. </p>
<p>GL</p>
<p>I am proud of Indian culture. megalo, this is what you get when Indian parents have their kids grow up in America and spoil.</p>
<p>Spoil? You think he’s spoiled because he’s assimilated to American culture? You think he’s any less proud of his heritage than you because he’s assimilated?</p>
<p>He sure doesn’t sound spoiled to me. An 18 year old who makes exceptional grades and exudes a great amount of responsibility wants to talk to girls on the phone and send emails? Call the ****ing church elders!</p>
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<p>Wow, since when did making good grades mean he was a good person? This kid apparently has little respect for his parents. The way he posted an image about his parents made CCers say to **** themselves. And is there anything wrong with his parents’ intentions? I dont think so. Maybe he should be left in an Indian village and then see how lucky he really is.</p>
<p>The adults in here are pretty conservative. They can sniff a spoiled kid who’s mad that their parents set a 2 AM curfew from a kid who has legitimately over controlling parents. I dont know this guy personally, but he sounds like a good person to me. He never disparaged his parents, he said he loved them and knew what they were going through. </p>
<p>Was there a problem with his parents style when he was 13-17? I’d argue yes, but since he was ultimately living under their roof, they have that prerogative. Is there something wrong with their intentions to arrange a marriage for him? Yes. The bottom line is that parents don’t tell their adult sons and daughters what to do. </p>
<p>Having a plan to strike out on one’s own isn’t a bad idea; its what capitalism is all about. This isn’t a traditional economy, its a mixed one. If you don’t like it, tough.</p>
<p>Parents must EARN respect, KillerAngel. I don’t care what their intentions are - they are overbearing, controlling people who quite honestly need to get a life. I’m sorry if that’s the kind of life you glorify - the kind of life where other people control your actions. As a proud American, I’ll quote Patrick Henry - “Give me liberty or give me death.”</p>