<p>My mom and I had to run out of a parking lot today. We were waiting in line to use the drive up ATM at the bank, and a man had parked his car next to it and was standing outside trying to use it. He was taking forever and all of the sudden he screamed, ripped up all the papers and threw them, and spit on the ATM. My first reaction was, “WE NEED TO LEAVE RIGHT NOW.” But my mom pulled out her phone because she saw his plate and wanted to call the police, and he saw. We had to make a very quick exit and called the police from a few blocks away.</p>
<p>So another lesson in dealing with creepy people with anger issues, don’t pull out your phone until you get away if your safety is at risk. Because if they are unstable, them becoming aware that the police are on their way and it’s your fault may not be in your favor. We live in a really nice neighborhood and I thought we were really in trouble for a minute there before we got away.</p>
<p>1- make sure your daughter’s health needs are taken care of
2- get some advice form your insurance comnpnay about how they handle the claims; for example, in MA a written accident report must be filed; include calculation of the cost of handling this on your own vs. getting the other driver’s insurance to pay
3- calculate the cost/benefit of a) getting repairs done on your own and not having to interact with the crazy driver again OR b) attemtping to make the crazy driver pay with the knowledge that he may become involved with you folks again over this
4 - go over that calculation with an attorney who can advise you on the proper and usual steps to protect yourself - in either case - in your state</p>
<p>I felt sorry for you getting a lot of unrequested advice about your daughter’s behavior here; that’s a risk with message boards: people will take the conversation in places you’d rather not go; my impression was that cautions for your daughter mentioned here ONCE was enough; the ongoing talk about this reminds me of early 1970s discussion about rape and how women should not wear provocative clothing: it was NOT her fault!!!</p>
<p>This comment, along with your report of her writing down a license plate number while driving is what would scare me as a parent. I think someone else asked whether your daughter is giving you the whole story or not; based on your comment of this being ‘another’ claim, what is in her past? All this time that she was engaged with him, she was not only putting herself at risk, but those around her who had nothing to do with this wacko. Perhaps a defensive driving course is in order for her, and for your sanity.</p>