<p>My 21 year old D says that I should have a FaceBook account. Lots of her friends’ parents are on FaceBook, and she thinks it would be fun if I were, too. </p>
<p>I am perfectly happy with my few real life friends. I have my H, kids, hobbies, job and am never bored. I like checking out threads on cc, and I don’t particularly want to connect with old high school or college friends. There are only so many hours in a day, and mine are filled up just fine. Why should I join Facebook?</p>
<p>I’ve found it a fascinating way to find out about causes and events that I’m interested in. I’ve also found it an excellent way to keep in touch with friends, including developing a stronger connection with people whom I don’t see that much, but do like. It also has been interesting to see how many of my friends know each other. While I wasn’t interested in connecting with high school acquaintances, the ones who have connected with me have been very interesting, and I’m glad that they found me.</p>
<p>And I’ve enjoyed learning more about S’s life in college, including seeing some nice, interesting pictures of him that I might not have otherwise seen.</p>
<p>I am a facebook dolt…lol. I have the oddest selection of friends, and I’m NOT good at developing or looking for new ones. I have a few high school freinds…my 1 ds…my dd said, are you kidding me??? noooo…my niece “freinded” me, my step sis, who’s like a sis…its a strange combo, not sure what to do with them, but its fun:). I wouldn’t ever put up anything I’d regret in the morning…lol</p>
<p>That’s funny! I signed up a few weeks ago, and both my D and S rolled their eyes. Since then my D’s friends my D’s friends parents have “friended” me. Occasionally D and I “poke” each other. No downside for me, but I have asked her to hide stuff as she sees fit.</p>
<p>I love the one line-updates that I am getting from friends who lived in our old neighborhood. It was a tight group of families who are now all over the world, so it’s very fun to stay in touch. And I feel much closer to the nieces that I only see once a year (if we are lucky.) If I can just get my sisters and the kid in college signed up, it would make me happy.</p>
<p>My high school class now has a page on Facebook. It’s fun to hear from people I knew decades ago.</p>
<p>Thanks, everyone! I guess I’ll let my D help me set up an account. I don’t plan on doing much searching around, but it’ll be interesting to see who finds me!</p>
<p>I have had to be dragged kicking and screaming into most new things. We were the last people to get an answering machine. Our landlines still plug into the walls. We were slow getting cell phones. My H is computer savvy, so we have always had those. But this Facebook thing is a mystery to me.</p>
<p>I am a newbie to Facebook, also at the urging (and blessing) of my DD. In 2 weeks, I have added over 120 friends! Within a day of signing up, I was found by several HS friends who I hadn’t talked to in over 30 years. Last night, I found my two 1st cousins on the West Coast. We correspond occasionally by email and rarely by phone, but now with FB it will be so easy. Once my H saw how much fun I was having, he set up an account on Sunday and was amazed at how many of his old HS and college friends have found him already. Of course, DD is now feeling that her world is at an end because both of us have pages - LOL! I was at a meeting last night when she texted me and asked that I speak to her father about NOT always chatting to her when he is online! I told her initially that IF there was anything on there that she would rather I not be privy to - make it private. I also promised her that I would not “friend” any of her friends, but if they added me, then I would respond. We are both involved in community theatre, and many of her friends did not go away to school and they do shows that I am also involved in, so it is natural that they may put in a friend request to me. One caution - it tends to be rather addicting!</p>
<p>My son is going to “help” me set up an account because I there are some resources that are beneficial to my work that I would like to participate in…I admit curiosity to see old high school/college friends since I don’t really keep in touch with anyone…I will not ask my kids to “friend” me - just my own personal preference. </p>
<p>How has the CC Facebook group been going? Anyone?</p>
<p>Most of the girls I was friends with in HS got married and changed their names, as did I. My husband and I married and moved away and our parents retired and moved away also within just a few years after we moved. How do you find old HS friends?? </p>
<p>I’m finding it fun to have cyber friends, neighbors, work friends and friend-friends all mixed up in one place! My kids have yet to friend m. I think friending younger kids is kind of tricky. My youngest is a sophomore in HS and a mother of a friend of his friended him and me and I am sometimes uncomfortable seeing some of the things on her page from my son’s friends. Nothing illegal, just crude talking.</p>
<p>My kids won’t friend me, I have just a few friends on facebook. I joined to play scrabble with my sister-in-law. I’m thinking about becoming friends with some of my cousins. There are a bunch that we share a cabin with, and it probably wouldn’t hurt to be more connected. I like looking at people’s status updates - my sil is very good at them.</p>
<p>kathiep, I think when you sign up and you can join/list communities - for instance, “This High School, graduated 1977” or your college or your work place etc. - so the connection doesn’t have to come through your name first - it could come from a general group like your high school and your year you graduated. I think.</p>
<p>I have a Facebook account that I never use for anything…accept to confirm my “new friends”. BUT I do NOT have either of my kids as “friends” on Facebook. Too much information that I just don’t need to know.</p>
<p>The advantage is that some friends from the past have actually taken the time to find me on Facebook. It’s nice to hear from friends.</p>
<p>kathiep, many women sign onto Facebook using their maiden name as a middle name, and a search brings them up. abasket is also right – and you don’t necessarily have to join a group, but self-identify as X College class of 1978, and there’s then a way to find everyone else who did that. </p>
<p>While Facebook can take up time, I find that I can just refresh my newsfeed or status updates, glance at them quickly, and be done in a few minutes. College Confidential can be much more time consuming. </p>
<p>And today, I’m having lunch with an old college friend with whom I reconnected thanks to Facebook.</p>
<p>I have one for professional use that is open. I do not friend family on it, just work related or alumni related. So it is rather dry in that sense, no pictures , or any of the funny Facebook things or a lot pf personal info. I wish I had used my maiden name as a middle name when I signed up. Now it is just in a note. I have been thinking about creating a separate one in my home email account for sharing family info since I do not want to make the professional one private. Mostly I want it to come up if any Googles info about me. I really use LinkedIn more.</p>
<p>Singersmom, you can add your maiden name to your fb account. I did it. Check your settings. As far as the CC Parents only group? Not a whole lot of anything going on there, it needs new blood!</p>
<p>Why join?</p>
<p>So you don’t miss the possible humor, such as this (which just happened last night):</p>
<p>On D2’s facebook, there are about two pages of happy birthday wishes from Sunday, then a post from my husband (who just got a FB a couple of weeks ago for information about his 30th high school reunion) that says, “It was your birthday??? Why wasn’t I told about this???”</p>
<p>Followed by a post from her new boyfriend (who she also shares a birthday with) who we have not met, saying “Your dad is really funny below me.” (meaning his post came right after husbands, so husbands post is right below his). </p>
<p>Let me fair, we made it clear to both our kids we would rarely write on their walls, but I told D2 it was my parental right to be the first one to wish her happy birthday on her FB (and I was).</p>
<p>Oh yeah Facebook. I am on it - though I admit I was once computer proficient, i find myself challenged.
3 of the 4 friended me. actually the 4th was my friend but dumped me for some unknown reason - haha.<br>
anyway - my kids are convinced the “old people” are going to ruin it. I get chastised when I write on their wall but my college freshman can write stuff like “did you file my fafsa, yet?”. we have some sort of a double standard.</p>
<p>anyway - definitely married women should use their first, maiden and last names. you will be ‘found’. A few weeks ago after my mother died, one of my first cousins, whom I have never met, found me. Very cool. Even my kids were impressed - ;)</p>
<p>Facebook is wonderful. Join our CC on Facebook group!</p>
<p>A guy at work talked me into opening a page last week…I have pathetically few friends. I can’t remember the names of very many people from the past and don’t necessarily care about most of them anymore. I have managed to find most of my old boyfriends, however!</p>