Ok CC friends, as I have posted before, I am 76 years old. I never married; came close but the guy was not interested in being a parent. I adopted my daughter (now 28) when I was almost 50.
On one of the zillions of email lists I’m on, someone mentioned this guy:
Since he offers a free hour-long consult, I figured, what the hell, and did the free session a couple of weeks ago. I now have (inactive) accounts on Hinge (open to everyone) and OurTime (pitched to older people). Next week, we are meeting in Brooklyn Bridge Park where I am scheduled to be photographed by Noah (a gay former US diplomat married with two young kids) to post on the apps. I am instructed to bring at least four outfits which, presumably, I will change into in the handicapped stalls at the park. And of course I will get there via subway stations with elevators.
So, wise CCers out there, any wisdom to add? I have already listed myself as only interested in monogamous relationships with men.
If any of you are interested in Noah’s services, I will tell him about my Oldmom alias. I am at the three-sessions-for-$900 stage, with the third paid session after the photo shoot. Anyone who signs up as a result of my referral wins me another free session.
Just going to tell you my experience with friends who have met partners. High School reunions (I know of 3), meetups (2- humanists and hiking), and volunteering (3- national parks, habitat for humanity).
While I encourage you to get out there and date I also caution that most dating coach sites are scams.
The site you provide seems to be a gay male with very few testimonials who doesn’t even provide his last name. And it’s very expensive before you even get started. The “free” consult is a come on. He’s asking a lot for your “photo shoot”–it’s a way to size you up in person and once you pay that big fee you’ll then feel obligated to continue (sunk cost fallacy).
Like Rockymtnhigh2 suggests the better way to meet people is attend meetings, clubs, etc where you’ll find like minded people who already share your interests.
My bil found himself single at an older age. He lives in a small town where many people know him from his job and is very reluctant to try the dating apps.
He did try a dating service which I didn’t even know was a thing anymore. Met a nice woman but they didn’t live in the same city so it sort of wasn’t meant for something long term.
But I know he would love to find a person to do things with. It’s hard to meet someone and harder to figure out if they are interested.
So @oldmom4896 i wish you all the success. And if a dating coach is helpful then by all means go for it. I don’t see where a person’s orientation is any deterrent from being helpful. Everyone has been single at some point.
Thanks, @deb922. I will always (well, for the foreseeable future!) keep my own apartment, and I am looking for someone (-ones? who knows, lol) within driving distance of where I live, so we can have experiences together, not just online.
I would love this for you and give you for taking some steps to get yourself out there!
I didn’t look at the coach’s website but from what you describe (the amount of $, the outfits to change in the park, etc.) I feel a little skeptical. Please be careful and let someone you know who lives near you what you are doing and when - any chance there is someone who can go with you??
He came recommended by someone I know personally, and it’s no secret that he’s gay. At 76, I don’t feel like I have time to meet someone organically. I do intend to volunteer for local political campaigns–my House representative and state assembly rep are both people with politics not my own. Although I am fond of saying “life is long”, it’s not that long for me!
My father was widowed at 77 and wanted a “ lady friend”- someone to do things with. They were together 6 years before he died and it was great companionship for both of them with no obligation to provide care ( they both had taken care of their ill spouses) or financial security ( both were financially secure). They knew each other as couples.
So, I wish you all the best on this endeavor and hope you meet someone.
I am not sure (learned via an email list for single, separated, divorced parents; she is the founder of Park Slope Parents to which I get a free subscription to all their lists because long ago I was a volunteer moderator to the first and at the time only list), but as I posted before, we will be in an extremely public space. And although I have already shrunk several inches, I am sure I am taller than him and outweigh him by A LOT!
Just curious so I looked around the interwebs - not sure his universe would overlap your interests. He certainly seems perfectly safe to meet.
Originally, I focused on my own dating community called “Chubs and Chasers,” which refers to fat gay men, like my husband, and the men who like them, like me. My friends and clients quickly became frustrated with me about my reluctance to accept referrals beyond the comfort of my own tribe, so I started broadening to other gay gays or fat women.
He has a very niche market (in my mind at least) and may be a great guy but that doesn’t mean he is the right coach for you. I’m sure he’ll stll take your money either way. The link appears to be Park Slope and a couple of articles.
for taking some steps to get yourself out there!