<p>I have had absolutely no luck getting dates at all this summer because:
Every female at my work is way older than me
All females in Cleveland have 2 or more kids
All women I meet are my buddies girlfriends or chicks that my buddies have done (I know the history)
I am just not attracted to chicks as big as mascots</p>
<p>So I bit the bullet and signed up for E-Harmony’s dating service. It seemingly will take forever, but it has to be better than Yahoo’s dating service, where I got 36 rejections/no replies out of 36 inquires sent out.</p>
<p>Has anyone on this board had success with any of these dating services or know someone who has?</p>
<p>Is E-Harmony the best one? (my buddy uses Match.com and has had some luck)</p>
<p>Was it always this damn hard to meet people of the opposite sex?</p>
<p>I have to admit I lean toward the advice sandra bullock was given in the movie 28 days- first get a plant- then if after a year it is still doing well, then get a pet, after another year it & the plant are doing well, then you might be ready for a romantic relationship</p>
<p>breaking up with someone who is very ill ( wasn’t your fiance bedridden?) has got to be tough.
I suggest you give your self some time to see what life is like sober- it sounds like it has been a while since you experienced it.</p>
<p>The major problem is that I still lead the same lifestyle, going to bars etc that I did before, but without drinking. I go to the bar more now than when I was drinking. (drunk people are fun to laugh at) I guess the question I should be asking is where are good places to meet decent females? My local church is all old people and familes so that is out. Should I try crusing to different churches? That last statement reminded me of Booger in ‘Revenge of the Nerds’ “I’ve been crusing the high schools all day and nothing”.</p>
<p>Part of the problem may be that there aren’t all that many women around who like to regard themselves as “chicks”. Perhaps they sense that you do think of them in that way.</p>
<p>I only refer to them in that sense in general on message boards and with my buddies, I agree its a total frat boy term, but I don’t like to write females, females, females, three sentences in a row; or women, women you get the idea.</p>
<p>Another thought: maybe you shouldn’t be so quick to dismiss the women with two kids. At 28 you are beginning to move out of the age of dating college coeds and moving into the age range where many of the women available to you are going to be divorced moms.</p>
<p>Dating is about numbers. Where do women go in your area? Many probably take dancing lessons. Try your nearest ballroom, line, swing, etc. dancing lesson location. Also try your nearest aerobics, pilates, etc. athletic facility. Women love horses. Try any stables or club with horses. Women love crafts and cooking. Ever thought of taking a class on making pastries? Woman love romance novels. Ever thought of joining a book club with a bunch of women sitting around talking about books? Yes, I realize most guys would consider these events as pushing you close to insanity, but that is precisely why you should consider them – not many other guys will be there and you will be the center of attention.</p>
<p>Maybe looking in bars isn’t such a good idea if it’s been tried and not working. Start going out to places you don’t go often, frequently. Cleveland’s a big town. And don’t dismiss someone quickly, if you’re at the store, you see someone, that’s a great oppurtunity! I agree about the divorced moms with kids. You’re at the stage where a lot of them will be divorced, even without kids.</p>
<p>Man I can honestly say I have never taken a dance class, aerobics class, had anything to do with horses, crafts class, cooking class (does barbequing count), ever read a romance novel, or anything you have mentioned. I thought about taking a dance class up at the community college, but I am like 250 lbs, they would make fun of me But the cooking class idea isn’t a bad one, I might look into that. I guess all the things I do are totally guy things.</p>
<p>Do you play bridge or have any interest…there are beginner classes and clubs…doesn’t matter if you are good but many women play this game and they need partners!! </p>
<p>Also…volunteer to usher at your local theatre/symphony many women do this because they don’t have dates and it is way easy to meet interesting women. </p>
<p>Art Museum…always big women hunting…lots of volunteer, class,groups.</p>
<p>cleveland has a nice art museum don’t they? I wouldn’t know though, I hate art, even though I’ve been to cleveland. so yeah good suggestion hazmat</p>
<p>I have been to the Art Museum many times. Its free:) That is a joke I play on a lot of my buddies. I tell them that if they pay for parking I will pay their way into the muesum. Which of course costs me nothing.</p>
<p>Adult Education and Programs
Art Encounters, Summer 2005</p>
<p>Studio Courses
New! Art of Travel
New! Book Club
New! Art for Lunch</p>
<p>Art Encounters Schedule (Acrobat PDF)</p>
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<p>Docent Program</p>
<p>For more information on the Cleveland Museum of Art Docent Program please contact Barbara Kathman at <a href="mailto:bkathman@clevelandart.org">bkathman@clevelandart.org</a>
Docent programs are filled with women looking for men…</p>
But the cooking class idea isn’t a bad one, I might look into that. I guess all the things I do are totally guy things.</p>