<p>In later years, my father told me his performance was very carefully planned for ultimate intimidation. It would have made better sense to me if he had spent more time trying to explain his concerns and educate me on protecting myself rather than frightening my dates. I do think he had doubts as to how much control he was going to be able to exert on me for a period of years in my early/mid teens. He was pretty confident he could scare my boyfriends into “good” behavior. My boyfriends were generally much better behaved than I might have preferred.</p>