<p>I too agree that Hunt has a good point. So that is an additional reason to give it some time.</p>
<p>I agree with jonri and hunt. Very good advice you should follow.</p>
<p>Be professional. No fishing off the Employer Pier.</p>
<p>I’m more in line with JHS. These are adults, he no longer will be her TA; I see no problem with him asking her out. </p>
<p>OTOH, maybe that’s because I went out with a TA a couple of weeks after the class he taught ended. (I took the class pass/fail - and passed.) We’ve been married 30 years.</p>
<p>I told DS when he was a grad student and then when he was on department staff, to date upperclass, they are more experienced, have the degree in sight, and may be looking for an mrs or other relationship.</p>
<p>I suggest he wait until at least after winter break, for all the reasons given above. If he’s no longer her TA it’s fine, but he needs to wait a while to ensure that no one questions the impartiality of the grade she received. Also, as a parent of an undergrad daughter, I know that if she were asked out by a TA immediately after receiving her grade it would make her wary of what her grade was based on. She’d probably also find it a bit creepy.</p>
<p>So I say wait a few months.</p>
<p>As a student, I’d find it creepy. If you’ve gotten “close” in class, then she’ll probably try to add you through facebook or something. If that’s the case, feel free to explore. If not, I’d be super creeped out by a TA asking me out if we only know each other from class.</p>
<p>OP - Please re-read jonri’s post thoroughly before asking this girl out. (You do realize that if this goes wrong you could be dismissed from Grad School … don’t you?)</p>
<p>Thinking about the following might cool you off:
“Can you believe that my physics TA–the same %#@&% who gave me a C–just called to ask me out on a date?”</p>
<p>^ Or …
“Good news girls, it looks like that C is going to get a lot better!”</p>
<p>My personal experience with this was a million years ago (ok, more like 30, but it feels longer): I was a senior in college, and I loved the writing class I was taking. LOVED it. Thought the instructor was delightful, too; really smart, funny, great insight. It was my favorite class…until he asked me out. I was shocked, scared and really upset. I dropped the class. </p>
<p>Don’t do it.</p>
<p>thanks for the replies. I’ll probably talk about this with the supervisor like someone recommended earlier. This girl is just really gorgeous and is also really nice and humble. She has great looks and a great personality</p>
<p>I just want to ask her out asap since I may drop out of grad school at the end of this semester.</p>
<p>IMO, there is a big difference between a lab TA and a professor. I dated a TA after the class was over. (I asked him out.) I was a senior and he was a first year grad student. That was 30 years ago, so it would be wise to check into the rules first and wait until after winter break. She may not be happy about her grade and turn you down.</p>
<p>Well, if you do drop out there is no danger of conflict of interest at that point!</p>
<p>yeah, I really don’t want to let this opportunity slip away. I rarely ask out girls since I am rather picky and I know most girls are not a good match for me</p>
<p>IMO, there is a big difference between a lab TA and a professor.
exactly ! bradmiller, good luck with the girl but do ask the supervisor if you have any intention of not dropping out of grad school.</p>
<p>I had the CUTEST TA in an architectural design class. I so wanted him to ask me out, but he never did. I couldn’t get up the nerve to ask him out! I ended up dating a grad school classmate who was doing research under my father. We got engaged two months after we met, and now we’ve been married 25 years. DH still wonders how he got up the nerve, as a Yankee, to date his Texan professor’s daughter, lol.</p>
<p>Rodney Atkins hadn’t come out with his song “Cleaning This Gun” yet! ^^^^</p>
<p>Better give her at least a ‘B’ or she will always secretly be mad at you.</p>
<p>I see this as and ethical (and perhaps legal) question. Under FERPA, you would not be allowed to release her personal info to another employee unless there was a valid educational reason. So I would assume you would not be permitted to access her personal info (provided to you as her TA) for you to use in a non-educational context. I am not an attorney, but I am keenly aware of ethical boundaries.
You might get away with it, and your supervisor may not be as much of a stickler as I am, but I think it deserves very careful thought.</p>
<p>My take: ask your supervisor, wait until after winter break, then ask her nicely if she’d like to go out for a cup of coffee. Just coffee. See how that goes. If it goes well, then ask her nicely if you can ask her out. Take no for an answer and be done with it if she says no. Just say “let me know if you change your mind, here’s my email.”</p>