<p>My D 's first love interest was 16 and she was 18 .(He was at her college ) Now ,in Europe ,my D is dating a 15 1/2 year old . Is this about control ? Does anyone find this a bit unusual ? He seems very mature .We chatted with him the other day ,at D 's request . I would think there is a big emotional gap at this age ,not so much when she is 30 .</p>
<p>Quick, look up age-of-consent laws for the country she’s in and make sure she’s not breaking them!</p>
<p>Then, take a deep breath. She’s an adult and you don’t have control over her behavior right now (beyond a warning, which may or may not do much good). On the bright side, if she’s on a semester abroad now, this relationship is unlikely to last. If you continue to see this pattern in her life, though (with the age gap widening rather than collapsing as she gets older) it might be cause for worry.</p>
<p>My first two GFs were quite a bit younger than I was … but then again I was pretty young emotionally for my age so in one sense they were actually my peers. Is you daughter young socially for her age?</p>
<p>Is your daughter young socially for her age? Perhaps .</p>
<p>My nephew married a woman who was 10 years older than him. Of course she is a surgeon with lots of family money so no one on our side had any problems with it. Two children later, and a rebuilt house along a river in a very tony part of NJ, they seem very happy as do his parents, my sister and brother-in-law.</p>
<p>15 is a younger ‘man’ hah hah …</p>
<p>It’s definitely unusual for an 18+ y/o adult female to be dating a 15 y/o boy. It’s hard to say what her reasons are - you should ask her.</p>
<p>Is she blond and studying to be a school teacher?</p>
<p>A friend’s S who is 23 is dating a woman who is 37 and has a 13 yr. old S! They met in a bar out of state while the young man was in the city for a convention with a club from his college. They have been “dating” long distance for a year and now she plans to move to his state (he grad. from college in May and has a good job) and live with him (w/ 13 yr. old S in tow).
My friend is pretty worried about her S but knows there’s nothing she can do about it.</p>
<p>LOL Schmaltz. You are clearly the most dangerous man on CC.</p>
<p>At this age range 17-20, I think 3 years difference is too much. D1 has a tendency to go for younger men also, but only a few months old. But she is young for her class.</p>
<p>A lifelong friend of my kids started dating a 15-year-old boy when she was 17, and continued after she turned 18 (and well beyond that). She was a senior in high school at the time; he was a sophomore. I wouldn’t describe her as “young” socially – she was very social, and fairly popular with a certain sort of boy – but this was definitely her first boyfriend. He, meanwhile, was a newly-arrived immigrant (so somewhat exotic, with a cute accent and no known past), and strikingly mature for his age, both physically and socially. (However, there are certain inherent social limits when you still need someone to drive you places, and there were certainly times when the 15-year-old boy showed through the patina. Of course, there are times when the 15-year-old boy shows through the patina of my now-22-year-old son. I imagine women from 13-30 deal with that all the time.)</p>
<p>Everyone thought the relationship was a little weird when it started. Neither set of parents was too pleased. Her friends were sort of smirky about it, but mainly because she had been a resolutely cynical, no-time-for-love kind of girl, and all of a sudden she had fallen head-over-heels for this kid.</p>
<p>The relationship actually lasted almost five years, during four of which they were at least 500 miles apart most of the time. (Well, much of the time – a lot of back-and-forth visiting went on.) She finally broke up with him right before she graduated from college, having just fallen in love with some other guy at her school.</p>
<p>My D knows two bright and attractive college sophomore girls who are having summer romances with very average high school juniors–who don’t even have their drivers licenses yet. I do think it’s a matter of control, and enjoying being idolized. The maturity gap between a 16 year old boy and a 19 year old girl is huge.</p>
<p>My DH is 4 1/2 yrs younger than I. Today is our 27th anniversary. Of course we were both working in our careers when we met.</p>
<p>Then of course there was this: 51 yr old actor marries 16 yr old HSer. Does she look 16?? :eek: [Actor</a>, 51, married to 16-year-old on GMA](<a href=“http://abclocal.go.com/wpvi/gallery?section=news/local&id=8252278&photo=1]Actor”>http://abclocal.go.com/wpvi/gallery?section=news/local&id=8252278&photo=1)</p>
<p>^^I wonder who paid for the boobs . The bf or the parents? yikes!!</p>
<p>The 16 year old is wearing the make up of a 40 year old.
Sad.Creepy. Bad parents.</p>
<p>I saw that little minx on TV teaser segment this morning; my TV set almost caught on fire! There’s no way she is only 16! The marriage has got to be a publicity stunt.</p>
<p>I would not want my 15 year old dating an 18 year old. It doesn’t matter who is what sex. </p>
<p>One thing I have warned my kids about is to make sure they know how old any acquaintances they meet are before offering them drinks and other hospitality. Some of mine are a bit young for their age, so it could be an issue. It’s just too bad, but I don’t want the risk of them having problems being with someone under age. There have been some issues here in my area where older kids have gotten the book thrown at them when “dating” younger friends. My neighbor’s son had a lot of trouble for giving a drink to someone who was under 21 when the police got involved.</p>
<p>I haven’t ever faced this issue with my kids, but my gut reaction is that I’d tend to trust my kids. I have a friend who has a very attractive son. (He went all through grade school/high school with my youngest D.) Friend’s son matured early (think really good-looking, fit soccer player who was 6’ tall at age 14). All through his junior high and high school years, my friend was bothered by the fact that older girls were always asking him out. She figured that he could handle it and didn’t object, but she didn’t like it and told her friends and her son. Generally, those relationships, like many teen relationships with age differences like this, didn’t last. This kid (now a new college grad) was visiting us at our summer place over July 4th with a group that my D invited for the holiday. At one of the local gathering spots, D said that her friend ran into a girl from high school who had asked him out when she was in 10th grade and he was in 8th grade. She’s apparently still interested!</p>
<p>Hmm, the worm’s current g/f is 2 years older than he, as was last g/f. Seems to be a pattern. Still, they are in their 20’s.</p>
<p>Faux, when does your dtr return from Europe? It must be so hard when she is so far away.</p>