Some of these comments are quite judgmental. I do appreciate those chiming in that they’ve been through something similar.
I don’t expect my daughter to have all her ducks in a row as a teen, neither did I want her to get married at 17. My daughter openly and at will discussed her hopes and dreams for this relationship on a regular basis. I had gotten used to the idea of this boy being around for a while, since they seemed so serious and had long-term plans. In opening myself to listening to her, and welcoming him into my home, I started caring about him as part of my family. He was a fun and warm person to have around. I’m not sure how this translates into me being the one in the relationship with him.
I have no plans on communicating with him going forward. My feelings of disappointment simply caught me by surprise. I am grieving it as a loss, and it is not something I was ready for. There’s a younger sibling involved who is also hurt that he won’t be around, it’s not just about me.