Correct. I was trying not to make a big deal about this in front of my D, and thought I’d turn to parents going through similar experiences.
I AM feeling a lot more at peace. I’ve been reflecting on my emotions and writing in an actual journal instead of a forum.
I think I wanted more kids, I specifically saw myself having a boy at some point, and through the years I told myself, it’s ok, my girls’ SO will be my boys. That’s part of the problem.
Also, D lost a close relative very young, and it affected her, she was a little guarded and not very affectionate after that loss, and I always worried that she’d never fully recover. This boy brought her out of her shell, she was affectionate and happy, and I was relieved. I thought he was a positive influence and that made me like him more.
She was venting to me yesterday and I found out more details about his behavior. He gave her a hard time about taking a night off from talking to him, to spend quality time with me on Mother’s Day, and with her sister on her birthday. So yeah, not as perfect as I thought he was. I’m proud of her for knowing what’s healthy and seeing those warning signs.