<p>Anti-therapeutic therapy, this individual therapy. What if M-3 declares unilaterally that she’s now substituting family counseling for D’s individual therapy. Get the recommendation for a new provider from current therapist, who knows your D. </p>
<p>Then M-3 will always know the schedule directly and be in charge of the ride, too. When D goes along in the car, great; when not, at least the H and M-3 are getting helped that week. </p>
<p>If a fight begins at the curb/living room over who is or isn’t getting into the car, at least M-3 will hold all the cards in her own hand at the curb, and can drive away to get help, leaving an angry D on the curb ranting. Or if D happens to forget/no-show/isn’t home to leave, go without her anyway; don’t bat an eye. YOU need some help. It;s enough already.</p>
<p>Then, at least, the parents’ money gone into therapy will help someone/s and not be wasted. Heck, if the son is home, he can jump in the car, too. I bet he has a few things to unload… </p>
<p>My 2 cents.</p>