<p>My observation has been that the daughter gets decent grades (mom has said she has a higher GPA than her sons who attend an Ivy), but mom is dissatisfied with D academically because she is “not learning much” and doesn’t “crack open a book” and so on. She is a very different kind of student than her sons. She appears to do what she needs to do to get by and goes to an easier college that is not that demanding and with her intelligence is able to get a decent GPA. I don’t know how D will meet the mom’s academic standards as they are hard to define and most parents would go by the GPA, credits earned, etc. and likely not even be aware of their kids’ study habits when away at school. The D appears to be on her way to earning a degree which is her goal. She is a very different kind of kid than her older brothers, particularly as a learner and student. The parents are used to a certain kind of student and need to adjust the standard a bit for the kind of student this D is. There are many parents who would be OK if their kid was earning the credits and the degree as long as they were not failing or getting very poor grades. The fact that this child is not the studious type may be hard to accept but really needs to be accepted and it really is the least of her problems. Academically, she could be flunking courses, as many kids do. Her performance may be disappointing or frustrating to the parents, but it doesn’t seem that bad to me in the scheme of things.</p>