<p>x-posted with suzie.</p>
<p>I didn’t read the mass of weekend posts, just opened up here, but sevmom, I think your question goes to the heart of what Suzie has been saying, which is “pay the tuition.” Separate out all of the issues.</p>
<p>I have no opinion on “this” at this point, because the “school” thing seems to be the place M-3 “feels” she has the most leverage. But, then again, define “Doing this well.”</p>
<p>This is why many of us believe that if the daughter would simply move out of the house most of the presenting issues would go away with some time, distance, perspective and maturity. Some of us would continue to pay tuition, others seem to think they would not.</p>
<p>There ya have it.</p>