Daughter just threw in the towel

[jmmom]

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@ADad

It seems to me that this thread is replaying a fair amount of what is going on in m3’s house. </p>

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<li><p>Many of us tell m3 over and over what to do, even when she apparently is not doing it. Just like in m3’s household, where D does not do what she is told over and over to do.</p></li>
<li><p>Many of us tell m3 to reduce contact with D substantially, since D is an adult and does not do as m3 wishes. We ourselves, however, are not modeling this behavior by reducing contact with m3 when she does not do as we wish. If anything, we are increasing our involvement.</p></li>
<li><p>Many of us object to m3 micro-managing D’s life. We ourselves, however, are willing to attempt to micromanage m3.</p></li>
<li><p>Many of us urge m3 to limit her emotional involvement with D. We ourselves, however, openly express frustration with m3.

It is for these reasons that I have not posted on this thread after the very early going. I check on the thread every so often to see if anything is actually changing in momma-three’s house - in terms of what the <em>parents</em> are doing (not what the D is doing; she won’t change until the parents change, imo).</p></li>
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<p>I’m happy to say that I saw a little change in momma-three’s post #931. Hope to see more.</p>

<p>As someone once said, insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. Until the parents stop doing the same thing over and over again, there will not be different results.</p>