<p>You know, I changed colleges for a boy. Biggest mistake I ever made. But since I was on scholarship, my folks’ input fell on deaf ears. The relationship failed and the college was lousy. Our s. did everything he could to find a program near his GF, whom he has dated for 1.5 years. He couldn’t find one. Agreed to go to the best college for him, in another state. BUT says he will give it only a year. Says he must know by Thanksgiving if she is THE ONE, so he can behave accordingly at school. Says he can meet attractive girls and never date one. His uncle (my brother) and his wife married at 20 and at 45 are celebrating 25 years. Our S points to this constantly.
Now, our S’s GF is beautiful and brainy, although she worships him to the point of lunacy: “OH! You made a peanut-butter sandwich for me! That is soooo sweeeeeet!” She sends him constant letter (we live six minutes apart by car) with his name on the envelope covered with hearts. Who knows what they say? He has written a journal of love letters for her he intends to give her tonight – the night before he leaves – and has written every day for six months.
As for our families, I don’t think that matters, really, Her parents are “fun” (big party people). We’re quiet (a drag). Her sisters are three alcoholics in rehab. Her dad is an alcoholic not in rehab. We wouldn’t be all joyous if they got married today or ever but it’s not our life. SHE is very smart and bright but very, very manipulative: She says, “I don’t know if I can stay with you if you have to travel so much…but I REALLY want you to be happy.”
Whenever he wants to go out and party with their friends, she gets “sick.” She wants him alone with her, always. He broke up with her for one day and she stayed home from school for three days, recovering.
We would hate to see the dream our S has worked on for nine years go flush b/c of this girl’s allure.
Anyone else ever faced this, and not with a friend of a friend’s cousin?</p>