The impression I got from the initial post in this thread was that OP was new to the forum and had been “shamed and condemned” by members of the CC community. If OP is referring to a 5-year-old thread, I don’t think that’s very fair to current members.
I wasn’t a member in 2012, but I went back and read OP’s first post to the forum and I don’t think the overall tone of the thread was uncordial. It probably would’ve helped OP if he’d mentioned in his initial post of that thread that the child he was referring to has learning disorders instead of waiting 20+ posts, because details matter. People have different parenting styles, and the parenting style used with a neurotypical kid can be different than the one you use with a child who has multiple learning disorders. You have to do what works best for that particular child. I don’t believe anyone on this board would disagree with that. They might disagree with what that would look like for their own kid, but disagreeing isn’t the same as being unwelcoming.
I think the people here are generally supportive, and any who aren’t won’t last long when the moderators catch wind of it. But the moderators can’t do anything about situations they haven’t been told about.