@BadParent I don’t understand the point of this thread.
Did you want to initiate a discussion about helicopter parenting? Or did you just want to make a statement about your own success at parenting? You seem to be very angry, and I don’t understand the source of that anger.
It would help if you defined “helicopter parenting” in your own words. Your definition might be different than other posters.
My own thoughts about defining helicopter parenting include, but are not limited to:
Expecting a child to follow a particular (parent decided) major or career path is helicoptering.
Having access to an normally trustworthy adult college student’s texts, email, and whereabouts 24/7 (GPS phone tracking) Is helicoptering.
Offering unsolicited advice about class selection and daily activities is helicoptering.
Not allowing your child to experience struggles, small failures and mistakes is helicoptering.
Calling or emailing or otherwise contacting a college professor or administrator or employer for any reason other than an emergency is helicoptering.
Doing anything more than editing anything your child has written, and even then only after the child has asked for help is helicoptering. A discussion about how to write a resume or cover letter is fine, but only if the child asks for help.
Generally, helicoptering is when the parent continues to take charge of things the child could (and should) be handling on her own, done out of love and a parental need to keep the child safe, happy and successful. The short term results may be great, but the long term consequences are debatable. But your definition might be completely different.