<p>thanks APOL but I’m a transfer applicant so we won’t know till late April… pfft… bummer…</p>
<p>ljolmes…go to UW…it’s a great school (top tier) and Seatlle is a great place to live albeit the rain and the millions of homeless people. (I’m from Portland though, greatest little city ever)</p>
<p>is it top-tier? i am like really depressed that i did not get into ucla, and only uw and umass and maryland and fsu and ucf</p>
<p>Please listen to me. I am old, really old. I’m probably older than your parents, maybe the age of your grandparents. I am in my second career. It may matter where you went to school for your first job but only if you want something exotic and useless like investment banking. After that it is about you, not your school. I went to two state universities, Rutgers and UNC. I had a very successful career in the Federal government and I am now an administrator at the University of Wisconsin-Madison. </p>
<p>Here’s what really matters in life. Are you a nice person? Are you trustworthy? Do you take advantage of your opportunities? Do you work hard? Are you a good parent? Do you add to the common weal? These are the things that count in having a successful career and becoming a successful adult. That’s what life is about. 10 or 20 years from now NO ONE will care or be impressed where you went to school.</p>
<p>i’m very bitter that my friend got into UCLA and UCB while i didn’t. she had lower stats than i did… sooooo yeah. that really makes me feel crappy.</p>
<p>Agree with tsdad a million percent (ok so math wasn’t my strong subject)</p>
<p>and I’ll add: after a decade, those who continue to rattle on about their colleges and unis to anybody (except perhaps a spouse or fellow alumni just for the bonding) are met with rolling eyeballs hitting the ceiling, splat…</p>
<p>I wouldn’t date this guy during my first job, post-college, b/c he put out his hand and said, “Hi I’m M-- and I went to Harvard.” I noticed he did that with everyone.
I thought, if that’s all he can say for himself, I’m NOT INTERESTED.</p>
<p>And before you think I’m just idly swiping at Ivies, I’m not. A cousin went to Harvard a million years ago and he is lovely b/c he found a good wife and makes himself a decent home, goes to a synagogue, listens to his daughters’ nonsense, gives to charity, took care of his parents…</p>
<p>He found suitable, satisfying work and made a good home life. I don’t see why that’s not available to every single person on this thread, someday, regardless of the penant hanging over your desk.</p>
<p>I truly think this. Am also old enough to be somebody’s (young) grandma</p>
<p>It hurts that my friends got into my #1 dream school and I didn’t. It also sucks that some of them aren’t even psyched about being accepted to it.</p>
<p>Though I know I didn’t get into Barnard (I tried my user-number thing online and it didn’t work) I didn’t get my rejection letter yet. I’m still hoping that I got waitlisted, if anything.</p>
<p>It also sucks that I got waitlisted at one of my safeties…damn. lol</p>
<p>I got accepted to a college I could potentially LOVE but they gave me virtually no money. I feel kinda screwed. It’s either going there or to my CUNY.</p>
<p>Is it bad to still want to <em>hope</em> that I might get in/getwaitlisted/get something?! Gosh, this year stinks…</p>
<p>tsdad, it’s amazing you’ve lived this long and would still call a career many find rewarding, and that totally effects our economy, useless.</p>
<p>It was a gratuitous insult and I apologize.</p>
<p>I’m not sad about my rejections, because I truly would’ve picked the other school no matter what. My parents, however, is making this sooo much harder for me by comparing me with every single person they meet/talk to. They didnt eat dinner with me last night, and now I’m getting the looks of disappointment and the constant <em>sighs</em> from them.
My friends have families who celebrated for their admissions no matter what.
I don’t know, I just wish my parents were more supportive.
In my heart, I knew I will be happy and the next four years will be awesome. but if my parents cannot support me (emotionally), I don’t know if the previous sentence would held true anymore…</p>
<p>oneday I sympathize with you because I went through the same thing today. It was absolutely ridiculous. My dad blamed me not getting into college on things I did in the past two months and then did the comparison with someone he knows thing. Yelled at me and left. Well atleast he never went to college and doesn’t really know the system.</p>
<p>I was rejected by Columbia but I kinda saw that one coming. It still disappointed me, though. 
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<p>I’m still waiting to hear from USC, Northwestern, and NYU.</p>
<p>oneday and farock</p>
<p>I feel so very sorry for you both. As a parent, it’s very difficult to imagine a parent adding more pain or stress to the situation. My heart goes out to you and I hope you have a wonderful time exploring your new freedoms in college.</p>
<p>oneday and farock: Sorry to hear that your parents responded that way. You can’t control the way they act, you can only control your response to it. Do your best to ignore it, and focus on your many positive accomplishments.</p>
<p>I invite you to go to a thread I started in the Parents Cafe called “Come Clean…” Share your posts with the parents on that thread. Seems like virtually all parents on that thread think they (and all CC parents) do a perfect job in the college process. </p>
<p>Remember…stay positive!!!</p>
<p>Best wishes in your endeavors.</p>
<p>I got my first waitlist today, from Skidmore, and my first rejection, from Vassar. Vassar was one of my top choices, so I was bummed. I went to the post office looking to hear from Reed, so I was very surprised and disappointed to find two thin envelopes waiting for me from other schools. Oh well…I’ve gotten into seven schools so far and am waiting for a few more, so I’m okay.</p>
<p>to lull…maybe u shud try to come to the us anyways…maybe try community college, and see where u can go from there…</p>
<p>Rejected from three Ivies already, wait-listed on 1, and only waiting to hear back from 2 more schools.
Now I think the worst fear of my life is going to come true… what if I am left without a college to go to???
What are my choices if I am rejected from EVERY school? What can I do? I want to go to college… but I managed to screw that up pretty well…</p>
<p>If one is rejected everywhere, that doesn’t mean that you can’t go to a 4-year college next year. If you take a gap year, you’ll have even better options.</p>
<p>If anyone is rejected by every school, read this thread about an excellent student whom this happened to in 2005, and how he used a productive gap year as a time to strengthen his applications and to apply to colleges in a way that resulted in some wonderful options (N.B. He still didn’t get into schools that initially rejected him, but he did get into some top schools and is now at a top college that he loves).</p>
<p><a href=“http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/showthread.php?t=47867&highlight=“picking+pieces”[/url]”>http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/showthread.php?t=47867&highlight=“picking+pieces”</a></p>
<p>Around May 15 or so, the National Association for College Admission Counseling will post a list of colleges that still have space. There always are some first tier colleges on that list (presumably colleges that are in need of certain kind of students. Tuba playes? South Dakota residents?), and lots of second tier ones.
<a href=“http://www.nacac.com/survey/results.cfm[/url]”>http://www.nacac.com/survey/results.cfm</a></p>
<p>Bruinsjew,
I am worried about you as you are saying that you feel worthless and are considering suicide over your rejections. You also have had some very difficult blows in your life.
Please get some mental health counseling. If your parents won’t take you, since you are a cancer survivor, you can get free telephone counseling through the Lance Armstrong Foundation. <a href=“http://www.livestrong.org/site/c.jvKZLbMRIsG/b.594849/k.CC7C/Home.htm[/url]”>Livestrong;
<p>When I applied to grad school, I was rejected by my top choices, and then got another rejection. I was crushed and thought my life was ruined. I only had applied to 4 colleges. The program that I got into was surprisingly wonderful, and gave me insights and skills that changed my life. I also made lifelong friends.</p>
<p>It’s pointless for you to assume that if you’d stayed in NY, things would be different. You don’t know what your life would have been like there. You also may have had even fewer college options because excellent New York applicants are a dime a dozen at most top colleges.</p>
<p>I guess I am just in shock right now…
I am an American citizen currently going to high school in China… A gap year would benefit me a lot actually…
But its the simple fact that I have a 3.8 UW GPA; 2150 SAT I; loads of EC’s; great Rec’s; great Essays (looked over by 3 English professors), and I still get rejected from EVERY college that has replied to me… UPENN was the worst rejection since they got my hopes up with an interview in Feb.</p>
<p>However; if I do decide to take a gap year and apply next year… wouldnt the colleges wonder why I took a gap year? I don’t intend to re-apply to ANY of the colleges I applied to this year… but if I apply to other colleges; will they cross-reference my name with the colleges I did apply to this year?</p>