<p>To mythreedd #150: We went through that today at my house - only it was inside a locked car in the garage, not a bathroom. Unfortunately, we had no poster or sweatshirt to take our anger out on! Bless your daughter’s heart!, and her creative anger management! 
And bless yours, for I know the pain you must’ve felt as her mother - because my heart broke a little today, and I know how you must’ve felt while she sobbed. I look forward to a call from my D. next fall when this day is just a faint memory, if that.</p>
<p>Feel inferior but not so much… not sure how to explain it.</p>
<p>I’m a little upset, myself, even though I’m already in at my first-choice college – it’s being rejected everywhere else that’s a little painful, whether I would have attended or not. (I can’t be the only person who feels like this.)</p>
<p>Admittedly, like bexline I’m a young student (though not quite as young! Fifteen-year-old senior), but unlike her I didn’t actually look into whether [College X] would take someone my age until I’d already applied-- could probably have saved myself some unnecessary rejections. (The fact that I’m international and in a low income bracket doesn’t help either. At all.)</p>
<p>So far I’ve gotten in to one college out of five, waiting for Stanford (the sixth). I shouldn’t be disappointed, really, since that one college is Caltech, which I’ve loved for a very long time. I think I’d fit in rather well, and I’m definitely going to have a brilliant time, but – I can’t really help but feel a little inferior to all the people who made it into Caltech and everywhere else.</p>
<p>Hi everyone,
I got rejected by Harvard, Princeton and Yale today; by Oberlin (OH) a week ago= rejection from all my choices
I’m an international and have no money to pay for my education, so I had to apply to those schools that meet 100% of fin. need. I can’t be staying in my country, and really need to go to U.S asap. (not only because of my education, but for another, maybe even more important reason)
I dunno what to do. It’s just way too hard.</p>
<p>i’m hoping for a very big tsunami along the coast of malibu… when all the ppl are away so no one gets hurt…except for the *****es who denied me. just kidding…kind of… most beautiful campus? no more!</p>
<p>is this feeling normal…? i feel like a very evil person but i can’t help it… </p>
<p>shock-denial-anger … feels like someone close to me died…</p>
<p>literally felt like my heart was being cut up and eaten</p>
<p>When I juxtapose my history and my rejections, I (unlike 90% of you guys) can’t say I didn’t deserve my rejections. I have made too many mistakes too early in the game and when I began to recover, to my horror it was too late.</p>
<p>I’m sure not many of us will actually laugh when they look back on this (most of us will block it out of our minds), but we’ll still be living our lives, and “right now” will be just another insignificant moment.</p>
<p>Was that cliche? Sorry =/</p>
<p>Rejected from UC:Berkeley and UCLA. I really wanted to go to the former and thought I had a great chance there. It was damn hard to focus that day in school (I read my status in the morning since I’m in overseas) and kept thinking how great it would’ve been had I been accepted to UCB. However, I’m feeling okay now, albeit still in that “shock” mood since I’ll be awaiting decision from Stanford tomorrow. Nevertheless, no matter what that decision will be, I still have UCD or UCSB I can attend to and after this week, I can see myself really excited to attend one of these schools.</p>
<p>I guess my mood is in the process of shock-denial-anger-upset-resigned development. At this point, my mood is at “upset”, but it’ll turn to resignation by next week. </p>
<p>In reality, my future will not be determined by what university I will go to, but what I learn from it, and that largely depends entirely on me. So screw moping, pouting, and being depressed right now in high school and in college. I still have control over my future, and nobody will give a damn about where I got my education so long as I show the work and results. The only thoughts in my head right now is not “what will happen to my life”, but “what could’ve happened to me in the next four years had I been accepted?” The answer: nothing special compared to UCSB/UCD.</p>
<p>so i was depressed today…after finding out i didnt get accepted to ucla and ucb…but now im going to go to a community college and i had a question …(ialready posted this but i kinda want advice as quickly as possible)… im going to go to a jc, planning on getting into the honors program and then try to transfer into ucla…but i was wondering what are my chances at getting into um…columbia…or cornell from a jc…and how would i do that if its even somehwhat of a possibility…? btw thanks for this thread…i was depressed…but i feel a bit better now =) (and honestly…if transfering into columbia or cornell is unheard of then let me know nicely plz)</p>
<p>**<strong><em>For all those who has been rejected by all their colleges</em></strong>
What are you going to do?
I’m in that situation myslef; dunno what to do, and need an advice.Please, share your ideas.</p>
<p>The answer is obvious, though it may be hard to accept.</p>
<p>Community College.</p>
<p>Man, if they push you down, you bounce back up and pop 'em in the face! That’s how I roll. :)</p>
<p>If future students read this thread, one useful take home message is that the students most OK with their rejections are ones that also applied to at least some schools that were both realistic for them to get into and they felt they could be happy at. After going through this process with two children of my own, and watching their friends go through it, the hardest thing seems to be finding those schools that are ‘hidden jewels’, not as hard to get into but the kids could still feel excited about them. I didn’t let my kids apply to any school they felt they couldn’t be happy at, but also made sure they applied to schools with a range of selectivities.</p>
<p>I think colleges should send out decisions strategically; for example acceptances should come before rejections, a bunch of rejections to a single applicant should come with an acceptance. It would make these few days a lot less stressful. Unfortunately it would require colleges to share applicant lists, and I suppose there are legal and ethical issues involved there. </p>
<p>I guess the only solution is for everyone to be tough and strong until all the decisions have arrived.</p>
<p>As a mom, I want to reiterate what others have said about taking chances. I think it is far better to take a chance on a reach school, even if you get rejected than to never even try. DO NOT FEAR REJECTION. EMBRACE IT. IT IS WHAT MAKES US STRONG. IT IS WHAT GIVES UP OPPORTUNITIES THROUGHOUT OUR LIVES. I hear other mom’s say “My son into every school he applied to” but what an empty statement if none of those schools were a reach for him. You will all end up at great schools that fit you. If you don’t have good options yet, fight to get off those waitlists, and work with your school counselors and parents to develop alternative strategies, but keep on fighting.</p>
<p>This thread is both heartbreaking and eyeopening. In this day and age, NO ONE should expect an admission offer to ANY top ranked university. The old CC adage, “Love Thy Safety”, was never truer.</p>
<p>Advantagious - You are a hoot and your father is a gem - an absolute “prince” of a man! I think you should bring HIM flowers today! Who cares about the rejections - you and your father have wonderful attitudes!
I just saw a video on the MSN site (link below) of the the father physically attacking his daughter at a swim meet because she didn’t win a race!! Didn’t win a race, didn’t get into the PARENTS’ college choice, didn’t live up to their unreasonable standards - man, there are some warped parents out there.<br>
But you Advantagious, you hit the jackpot in the parent department! I would cut the Yale shirt in very small pieces, stand in a very windy spot, and let it fly! And if your parents didn’t object, I would also include the Princeton shirt!</p>
<p><a href=“http://video.msn.com/v/us/v.htm?g=C3732646-DD55-4F2E-B15C-630BF0758B50&t=c1889&f=06/64&p=hotvideo_m_twiv>1=9145[/url]”>http://video.msn.com/v/us/v.htm?g=C3732646-DD55-4F2E-B15C-630BF0758B50&t=c1889&f=06/64&p=hotvideo_m_twiv>1=9145</a></p>
<p>Also, I think you all should be commended for your bravery. You took a risk, put yourself out there, laid it on the line when we all know the odds for admission are impossibly small. It doesn’t mean you “weren’t good enough” - your particular gifts were just not what that school was looking for. Their loss!</p>
<p>it’s funny, because i always swore i’d never be the kid who was devastated after being rejected by her “dream” school – more importantly, i was never even supposed to have a dream school in the first place. i was convinced i’d been so rational about the whole thing, and now it’s become evident that i was far from it…! it’s almost embarrassing, really. :o</p>
<p>I completely disagree with Triskeliongirl…What if there are no reach schools a kid would be happy at, or no reach schools that offer what a kid wants to study, or no reach schools in a region of the country where the kid want to be? Example…if I want to study environmental science and be in the pacific Northwest and am qualified for Reed, why would I apply to an IVY or an even more competive LAC if they don’t exist in the NW. I don’t think there is anything wrong with a student getting into every college they applied to if they are all colleges he/she would be happy to attend.</p>
<p>flyboy makes sense!! I get the impression that students from all over the country want to apply to the Ivies and to other east coast colleges just because they are prestigious. Therefore, it makes it harder for east coast students to get into colleges nearer to home – 'cause after all, how many east coast people want to leave the east coast for college?? It’s too bad that the competition for admissions into east coast schools is so hard for students who come from the east coast.</p>
<p>a part of me wants to try and appeal the decision and write back… </p>
<p>and a part of me wants to just say</p>
<p>djfhhgfggf screw bowdoin… i hope they have the lowest yield rates in history</p>
<p>I think that the thing that really makes college rejections hard is the fact that these are the first rejections that most teenagers have ever faced. I feel lucky that way, because having already been very very disappointed (by not getting into the prestigious Wind Ensemble that I hoped to get into–and believe me, I was extremely disappointed), I can promise you that rejection number 2 or 3 is really nowhere near as bad. Unfortunately, we almost certainly will face further disappointment, but, as unbelievable as it may seem now, at that time, you will feel empowered knowing that even severe disappointment can not derail you. </p>
<p>MidwestParent, thank you for the compliment. I certainly feel lucky, because I know that there are kids in my position whose parents are not happy with them right now because they didn’t carry on some (empty, meaningless) family tradition and/or didn’t validate their parents’ (non)greatness by obtaining the acceptance to X prestigious college.</p>