<p>First of all, {{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}} to you. If you will read this entire thread, you will see the immense changes that have come bbecker’s way through her choosing to seek professional help for her depression. As much as your friends’ hearts are in the right place, please realize that they do not have the expertise to help you in the way that you need to be helped. That is not to say that they cannot play a role in your recovery…they CAN. But you NEED to seek competent professional help with the emphasis on “competent.” IF you have not found a compatible counselor at your college’s health services, PLEASE TRY AGAIN. Sometimes it takes awhile to find just the right person with whom you “click” and connect. I would urge you to follow the very inspiring path of bbecker and try again to find someone who has the expertise to help you. You are WORTH IT, and you very much deserve to feel better. Feel free to pm me if you need anything. I’m here for you.</p>
<p>Arright, bbecker! You are one fabulous kid! Are you actually going to be working TWO jobs? Take care of yourself, get plenty of rest, eat sensibly, not just junk food as you rush from here to there, etc., etc., You know the drill.</p>
<p>BBecker, I’ve been traveling for a few days and this is the first chance I’ve had to check in.</p>
<p>Holy cow – this is amazing!! Two jobs. You seem to have distanced yourself from your mother’s bad vibes. You’re sleeping better. You’re keeping your doctor’s appointments. You’re not depressed!!</p>
<p>I am amazed at how well you’re doing! You could be the poster child for How to Get Help When You’re Depressed!!</p>
<p>Firstyr123 – can we help you too? Have you seen a doctor? How long have you felt this way? And so forth. Help IS available, and doctors DO help. Go for it.</p>
<p>Bbecker,
Congratulations on your acceptance to Marquette! Life just keeps getting better doesn’t it? You’re beating back depression, you’ve been accepted to your number one school, you’ve gotten two jobs, including the one you really wanted, and you just got accepted to another great school. Who knows what wonderful things the next year holds? </p>
<p>Firstyr123,</p>
<p>I hope you will seek professional help. It’s good that you are talking with your friends and they are trying to help you. However, sometimes, one needs more help than friends know how to give. You deserve to feel better. Don’t be ashamed to ask for help from a doctor.</p>
<p>I, too, am very sorry to hear about your current feelings. I am very sorry to know that you find it difficult to go to class or out with friends, and that you are not doing your work.</p>
<p>GOOD JOB previously in going to the counseling center to seek help. When did you go?</p>
<p>I am very sorry, though, that your first counselor was not able to help you.</p>
<p>Please try again!</p>
<p>Most college counselors are trained and experienced in working with students who are depressed. I also urge you, therefore, to try again at the counseling center. Speak with a different counselor and be very specific: tell the counselor that you are not doing your work. Tell the counselor that you find it very difficult to go to class or to go out with friends. If you are not in fact going to class at all, or not regularly, say that.</p>
<p>Please go there tomorrow. Give them another chance to help you.</p>
<p>A counselor should be able to guide you in an appropriate direction. Please try again, and please let us know what happens.</p>
<p>I got my final and last Acceptance in the mail today, UNF so that makes me 4/4. I applied to Florida State, University of North Florida, Marquette University and Carthage College and got into all of them. Now usually there’s the issue of figuring out what college I want to attend but I already know :-). Florida state of course. It’s another pick me up to get another acceptance. My days at work were great, I learned a great deal of new things to assist customers. I worked on monday and now I’m offically off the training schdul. I have the rest of the week off amazingly till sunday and monday when I work again. Since I’m new, I’m not going to get that many hours as a manager explained. I’ve been feeling fine lately, better then ever :-). I hope everything works out for the even better in the next few weeks. Thank you all for your support and concern! I hope everyone had a great easter with their families!</p>
<p>bbecker, are you considering talk therapy? I think it will help you understand what’s up with your mom and will help you take care of yourself when she won’t or can’t.</p>
<p>Bbecker, I should have checked this thread and responded to you sooner.</p>
<p>Yes, one way of finding a talk therapist is to call your doctor and ask for a referral. You can also call your insurance company and ask for a few names that are local to where you live. You can also look in the yellow pages and see if you can find some “pay according to what you can afford” type things. </p>
<p>It is not at all uncommon to find someone and just not click with that person, so if you don’t feel comfortable with the first one or two people, don’t get discouraged.</p>
<p>You could also wait until you start college; I’m sure there will be a counseling cneter on campus. Often, however, that is designed to provide someone with just a few sessions, to help people get over a particular problem. That might be sufficient, or you might want a longer type thing.</p>
<p>I could also just find a doctor up there and attend sessions. I have military health insurance so doctors are everywhere as long as I check on the site and make sure they take my insurance and make sure they approve the referal.</p>
<p>Well, MAJOR CONGRATS on our 4/4 finish on acceptances!!!
That’s quite a feat, especially considering all that you’ve been going through this year!</p>
<p>I would definitely encourage you to seek talk therapy. It can do wonders for ANYONE, IMHO, and if you find the right person, it’s truly like having your own advocate and source of support. Don’t settle for someone who is not a good match. Therapists/clients can be a mismatch for any number of reasons, but when you find the right one, you’ll know it!</p>
<p>Colleges have counseling centers which can provide services for you too. I’d suggest seeking help before that time, though, as I think you will benefit from it now!</p>
<p>Congrats again, sweetie, on all of your acceptances! WAY TO GO!</p>
<p>bbecker, I am just catching up on some threads, and I want to say how happy I am for you and how proud I am of you for handling your situation so well. Congratulations on your college acceptances and your job. I have no doubt you will be successful. I am so proud of you for taking the bull (depression) by the horns and doing something about it. When I read the beginning of this thread, it was if you were a wilted flower and as time progressed and you got the help you needed, it’s as if the sun is shining brightly and you are a strong, colorful flower standing tall. I’m so very proud of you. What a transformation!</p>
<p>I am a bit concerned about firstyr123 … wonder where they went? Hope he/she checks in soon.</p>
<p>Thank you all parents who have came and actually checked up on me. </p>
<p>Everything is ok for the moment. I’m counting down the week’s before I’m at FSU.</p>
<p>Stuff at home with my mother are ok as well, No aruging or anything. It’s peaceful but money wise everything is going down hill. Tomorrow she is turning in her car because she doesn’t have the money to pay for it or the insurance. We are only going to have my car which I’m still going to have, but i guess she’s going to use it on my days off from work. </p>
<p>No more cable, its sooo hot in my house cause we dont turn on the air. I’m afriad of how things are going. </p>
<p>I overheard my mom talking to my grandmother on the phone about going to the doctor tomorrow for a check up (I think) and that they are going to place her on 8 hour shifts again at the post office. Which means things will get better, I hope.</p>
<p>I wish I could help but my mom wanted me to get a job to pay for my own gas, phone bill and other expenses I might have that aren’t huge but thats all I get paid to handle and she understand that. </p>
<p>It sucks to feel this way, even though I’m not sad because for some reason I dont get sad anymore, maybe because of my medication but I just feel helpless. </p>
<p>Work is going great. I love it. I only have a month left there, I’m going to miss those people and my job.</p>
<p>I hope everyone is doing fine, parents and childern.</p>
<p>Thanks so much for checking in! It’s really great to hear from you! It sounds like your work is going well and that you enjoy it. Having work that you enjoy (and of course get PAID for! ) makes lots of things look brighter. </p>
<p>I’m so sorry that money is so tight at home and that your mom and you are struggling with that. I hope that she gets cleared to begin work again. Not only will the money help, but returning to some kind of normalcy will be good for her, I think.</p>
<p>I’m so happy to hear that you are staying with your meds and continuing to feel the improvement that they bring. You are such a responsible kiddo, and you show so much dedication–to your health, to your family, and to your job. College is certainly a bright spot in your near future, and I’m sure you will do as well there as you have in handling all of the challenges that life has presented you.</p>
<p>Hang in there, bbecker! No AC in the south is a tough one, but you’ll deal. And I presume it’s nice and cool at your job, right? I hope your mom gets things squared away soon. At least it’s good that things are more peaceful. If you can at all manage it, could you take her out for lunch in an airconditioned place, maybe for Mother’s Day? Or sometime before you leave. Be a nice treat for both you, and it doesn’t have to be expensive.</p>
<p>It’s not the medication that making you feel helpless, it’s just a darn difficult situation. You are coping wonderfully, and we’re all proud of you.</p>
) makes lots of things look brighter. </p>