I posted about a year ago about friendships. I lost my tribe during that time. It’s been a year of really thinking about who and what I want in my life. My circle right now is very, very small. I’ve emotionally moved away from some people and closer to others. I’m trying new things with new people to see what sticks. Thankfully - I’m rather introverted so I’m not lonely at all but do miss the deep friendships and camraderie that I had in my 30’s. My ideal tribe enjoys deep conversations, live events, travel and great food experiences.
Smart, snarky but not mean, educated or at least interested, feminists, not racists, likes sports, family-oriented, preferably Democratic.
Looks like none of us will be friends irl. I like smart, funny and kind people. I cannot have drama queens or needy people in my inner circle.
My closest friends are die hard republicans who don’t apologize for it. They’re successful, mostly entrepreneurs. We all work hard, work smart and enjoy going to dinner or a hole in the wall and laugh the night away. We also help each other and our families and they are people who show up when the chips are down.
I want to go to one of those parties at @Lindagaf’s house!
I should amend this to say no one in my tribe is a supporter of our current POTUS. For me, that is a dealbreaker because he is antithetical to my (our) core values.
I really do not care or want to know what someone’s political leanings are. What I care about for members of my tribe is if and how they care about other people, about those less fortunate, and what they do about it. I focus more on issues rather than political leanings. People can be in agreement on issues and how to treat others and still be of differing political leanings.
Sometimes, depending on the issue, it is kind of fun to be of differing opinions or political stripes, it gives us something to discuss. Life is boring if everyone in my group agrees on everything.
Great thread!
The ladies I run with are definitely my tribe.We have great discussions about lots of stuff (jobs, travel, families, fitness, current events, movies, elderly parents, etc) when we run. They are smart,upbeat, fun, friendly, physically active, involved in the community and have progressive views.
I’m actually not close friends with this group, but they are my running buddies and I enjoy spending time with them.
@abasket - you would fit right in!
^^ I would be in heaven to find this locally! I have to keep looking! 
Kaliamom, I want to be in your tribe!
@mathmom I’ll be in your tribe.
I like people with strong personalities, and I like kind people. Also, I like intelligent people who respect the views of others. (I have several relatives by marriage who are extremely bright, but look down on others. Definitely not my kind of folks.) And I like people who have a gentle sense of humor.
@intparent, Okay by me!
I like people with fire in their bellies. I admire passion, commitment, dedication, and hard work. My tribe includes smart people, and I do not necessarily correlate this with education.
I don’t need a big tribe, but was very grateful for all the love and support from the local, close-knit, rural, community tribe during my husband’s recent long and critical hospitalization. That was awesome.
I felt utterly bereft of a tribe when my D had health issues 10 years ago early in high school. My siblings and the people I thought were IRL friends did not call or check in to see how things were going, even after the major surgeries that happened. The women that came through for me were all online friends and they are all still friends now. They are scattered all across the country and we have all only met in person once or twice. We are all a part of the same online group, though, and still keep in touch.
Tribeless here except for my cat and houseplants.
I’d be in your tribe @eyemamom. Your tribe sounds a lot like my ride and dies.
I moved 10 years ago. I had a great group of friends. And I have a great family. Here the people are really, really nice. Very friendly. But, and I know why, they don’t feel like my tribe. But I’ve learned a lot.
Smart and successful overachievers. Well-educated, well-traveled, well-informed, rational and independent thinkers. Mostly conservatives, but also some liberals. Doers, not talkers. Don’t take s**t from anyone. Strong families. Generous and ethical people. Amazing friends. Very close-knit circle - so lucky to have them!
My tribe is generally aware and informed, but open minded. I am a republican (and not apologetic at all), and for all of my adult life I was vocal about how blessed I was to have in my tribe principled, open-minded, respectful liberals who embodied all the virtues that that word should involve. Some of those tribe members are the finest people I have ever met and I’m still blessed in their friendships. Unfortunately, in the last half dozen or a few more years, those people have been drowned out and driven underground by louder and more dangerous voices on their side of the spectrum. I prefer now to leave politics out of my relationships as much as possible because I find that I don’t agree with anyone in that regard anymore. So I would say my current tribe is physically active, physically fit people who read A LOT from a wide range of topics. They are also kind people who treat others with consideration. I’m not now and never have been much for going out and being rowdy. What I really want from friends is for them to share their joy. As we have been getting older, there are health issues, deaths, difficulties. I want to share and support in those, but please also share the good stuff - loudly and often! I have many flaws, but envy is not one of them, so I will dance in the aisles for my friends in their joy.
@zoosermom can I be in your tribe? I feel so much like you do about politics. I have friends who I respect endlessly who are the polar opposite of my politics but I treasure their opinions and want to hear them. As a republican also - I don’t feel that is always reciprocated. To have someone to share joy with is double the blessing too~ beautiful post
Yes you can! I’ll provide the potatoes!
P.S. I made the best roasted potatoes I’ve ever made in my entire life last night. I am so delighted I can’t even tell you.