Describe Your Tribe

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Interesting observations about this thread.

  1. I can see tribes I could be part of - and those I could not/would not want to fit into.
  2. Some of you speak from the perspective of describing your current tribe, while others (like me, the OP) describe how we would describe or like our tribe to be - but we don't actually have a tribe or the tribe we want.
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I think my tribe is in transition. We have always been the doers. The volunteers, chaperones, car pool organizers and drivers, coaches and assistants, scorekeepers, fans in the stands, committee members, sign posters, communicators, bakers, etc. Now that the nests are emptying I do not see the same faces and we all are finding new places and causes where things need done. A little sad, but a normal part of moving to the next stage of life. Some members of the tribe will move on together or find other ways to stay in touch. It will interesting to see how it all shakes out.

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I have a couple of tribes. Mainly the considerations are:
-People who are comfortable in their own skin. They like themselves and know who they are.
-People who respect other people’s opinion’s. If you cannot be friends with someone who holds a different view, that’s a red flag for me. It means you are self centered so that will be a one sided friendship.
-People who are entrepreneurs.!!!
-People who love their kids and can laugh ( and cry) about how hard it is to raise kids. Bragging is fine so long as you also see where your kid needs to grow.
-People who love food, travel and the great things in life.
-People who love nature.
-Doers, makers and thinkers ( no do nothings and no talkers)
-No braggarts. Facts are fine especially if they are great achievements. I don’t care who you know or how famous someone you know is. I don’t care how much money you make etc. What do you think and what makes you interesting?
-Political gas bags. I don’t care what you think about x, y, and z. I care why you think that but if you live in a world where politics is your main gig, I’m not a good friend for you.
-Engaged citizens. What are you doing to make things better?
-Kindness. Are you the type of person who holds doors for others? Says please and thank you? Brings people food when they are sick? Then likely you are a friend.
-Can you talk about tough subjects? This is the basis of many of my friendships. At some point, you or your friend will need a shoulder to lean on.