<p>Bevhills, he may have had a lot of power over you in your childhood but not so much now. Try to see him as he IS…a cranky, demanding, old man who thinks he can still pull strings. </p>
<p>You, on the other hand, are no longer that same child that he had power over. There is no more reason to be afraid of him.</p>
<p>My guess is that it’s the weight of family history, love, and obligation that is getting in the way here, not fear or intimidation. It must be hard to watch someone who was once so strong and powerful reduced to penury and irrelevance, and now to be the one who deprives him of the last vestige of independence. Driving is such a symbol in our culture. 16-year-olds flock to the DMV, elderly people hold onto their cars as long as possible.</p>
<p>Of course there is no question here. The right (only) thing to do is everything in her power to prevent him from driving. But it’s not easy.</p>