<p>Congratulations!</p>
<p>Congratulations, cincy gal! My 24 year-old son recently proposed to his long-term gf this month, so I’ll be joining you on the wedding threads! </p>
<p>Somehow, I have confidence that most young men choosing to share their intentions with the bride’s families have a sense of how it will be received before they make the move. I know that my son talked with his fiance’s dad before his proposal, but I also know it’s something that he and fiance agreed would be a good thing to do beforehand. Bride-to-be’s dad is a very traditional fellow, and the couple felt he would appreciate it, and he did. (Bride’s dad will also be picking up the lion’s share of the wedding costs. They’re traditional like that. )</p>
<p>Congrats, cincymom!!
I still don’t know how S1 proposed to his now-W. Will have to ask. With DH and me, we had discussed it for a while, and while I was in Boston looking at schools to transfer to (and not being happy w/the options), DH suggested we could get married. Not sure he had planned that to be the occasion, but there it was!!!</p>
<p>Congrats! It sounds like your D and your (assumed) future SIL will have a blessed blended family. I would hope that some day a young man will cherish my D in that same way–enough to want to share that with her parents!</p>
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<p>Congratulations! Sounds like a wonderful young man with a great moral compass. His closeness to his family shows his wonderful character, and you are very blessed to have him as part of your family.</p>
<p>I’m confused, though. Was this a dinner with just you, your husband, and the young man, or was your daughter also in attendance? No matter, just got that impression from your dinner report.</p>
<p>Congratulations again and keep us posted!</p>
<p>Congrats!
In the old days, it was important for the bride’s family to know that the groom would be able to support a wife and children. It was assumed that in most cases the wife would be a full-time homemaker and mother. So questions about income weren’t out of line.</p>
<p>The first words my mom ever said to my fiance/H were: “Can you support my daughter in the manner to which she is accustomed?” (LOL–we were in Peace Corps and called from Africa to announce our engagement–I was embarrassed and not sure if she was serious. Our family was middle or lower-middle class, and I’m incredibly “low maintenance.” I grabbed the phone back and said, “Mom, you don’t know what we’re accustomed to over here!”) To be honest, I was engaged to a hippie/bum I’d only known for 3 mo., who had college debt and no job. Sounds pretty scary to me as a mom now! And I don’t even remember the proposal. We were hanging out at my house and H said, “Wanna get married?” I said, “Let me think about it. . .” and gave him my answer the next day. There was no engagement ring. (I bought my own wedding ring–and H’s.) It seemed so low-key back then. Nowadays girls expect guys to copy the fancy/creative/romantic stuff they see on TV. </p>
<p>My niece–a college senior-- just got engaged. She was in a friend’s wedding party a couple weeks ago. While niece was lined up with the single ladies for the bouquet toss, her mom (my s-i-l) was sitting next to the boyfriend. She made him promise that they would not get engaged (everyone could see it coming) until AFTER graduation next May. (S-i-l never finished college herself, and is adamant that her D get her degree FIRST.) The boyfriend (already out of grad school and employed) agreed. Then my niece caught the bouquet and BF proposed the next weekend–one of those nicely photographed “park ambush” proposals. </p>
<p>I know a lot of very traditional religious people. The young men go to the young women’s parents for “permission to court” their daughters. One guy was refused for his first two choices among a big family with many sisters–he actually married the 3rd choice sister. Not sure why the mother told me this story. I don’t think I’d want to know–and wouldn’t want anyone else to hear-- if my H actually preferred 2 of my sisters!</p>
<p>Yayyyyy! It sounds like you’re getting a real gem in the family!</p>
<p>You will let us know when she’s officially accepted him?</p>
<p>Cincy gal, so happy for you all.</p>
<p>Montegut - our daughter was not at dinner with us, nor does she know that the dinner has taken place. BF purposely planned it for an evening when she had another commitment.</p>
<p>OP here with an update - She said “Yes!” DD and fiance are interested in a Sep/Oct 2013 wedding. Now the planning begins!</p>
<p>FUNFUNFUN! Congrats to you and to your family (including the newest member!).</p>
<p>Congrats to the happy couple! And you!</p>
<p>Congrats!!!</p>
<p>I just love weddings. Congratulation!</p>