Agree. And my local “Next Door” group has been taken over by a bunch of “Call 911, I just saw a kid walking home alone from school, he’s clearly being neglected” and it turns out to be a 15 year old. And reporting every skinned knee in the playground as child abuse.
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I’m with the don’t ask/act normally crowd. I’d just behave as normal, and not take the FB unfriending as a slight. I don’t “do” FB except for 2 very limited purpose groups. Much of the reason is the drama that can go on around it, and the political and religious stuff people tend to post.
If you feel you MUST say something, then I would consider a text or a brief talk (ideally not at poker night when others are around) saying something like “I noticed you unfriended me. I’m guessing it’s because I post too much political stuff, or you just did a general cleanup, but if I’ve done something to offend you, please let me know.”
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If you are in my feed because you are a friend or family member, I want to hear what is going on in your life. Not just see reposted memes. If you are clogging up my feed with that stuff, it is likely that I might unfriend you are well.
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I don’t want to see political stuff on FB, so I don’t hesitate to mute (I don’t unfriend). I have someone I muted way back during the 2016 election and I still don’t see that person’s posts.
I would not say anything when you see them. If they seem cold or aloof to you when face-to-face, then I think you have your answer. Honestly, if you’re going to post political stuff on your social media, you can’t be surprised when people on the other side leave.
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And FYI, you can click on Feeds and then choose whether you want to see everything you follow or just Friends. It’s a few clicks but it takes away 90% of the ads and algorithmically sent to you posts. You have to do it every time you go to Facebook.
You’ve gotten great advice above. I keep my FB friends list very small because I use it primarily for three groups – two of friends from specific times in my life and one is my local Buy Nothing group. I’m sure there have been people who tried to friend me who may feel bad that I didn’t accept but that’s their issue not mine. I use my social media the way that works for me.
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I deleted my Next Door app. Unlike the neighborhood FB Group and Buy Nothing, there were a bunch of nasty people on Next Door.
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We joke that Next Door (and certain town groups) are for the people that have been kicked out of all the well moderated neighborhood groups.
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Same!
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While we are on the subject of social media, I have a PSA.
FB and Insta have been doing some strange things lately. You might want to check your accounts and see if you are seeing posts from accounts you supposedly “follow” , but you know you don’t.
Just sayin’
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I think this was clarified elsewhere. Apparently people were following a position, as it were, rather than an individual. So they now follow the new person in that position. Nothing actually changed and nothing nefarious.
The things I saw had names attached so I (and several of my friends) do consider it pretty presumptuous!
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You’re sure they unfriended you and didn’t just deactivate or delete their accounts? So, even if they did unfriend you, I can’t imagine saying anything…I guess unless you want them to tell you to your face they don’t like your posts?
I always unfollow people whose posts I don’t want to see. Other than a couple people I wanted to actively avoid knowing anything about my life, I don’t unfriend anyone I expect to ever see again (family members, classmates that might be at a reunion, people I know from around town, etc)…for just this reason, that I am worried they would notice I unfriended me and it would be super awkward if it came up in conversation. I’ve unfollowed people because of too many political posts (whether I agree with them or not), raunchy jokes, too many spammy posts about their MLM schemes, etc…I may still like all these people if I chat with them in person but I don’t care for what they share…but it’s their facebook profile and they are free to share whatever pleases them I guess!
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Speaking of Instagram, does anyone understand “Threads”?
Don’t feel slighted. It could be the person just wants to slim down the number of FB contacts. And maybe even it was an accident. I’d just let it go.
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I think it’s similar to the platform formerly known as Twitter. I don’t use it.
Maybe start a new thread for Threads or ask in “Random Questions” - but @FallGirl is correct. It’s a side hustle of Instagram that is somewhat like Twitter.
Well, I’m glad you speak your mind on FB, but I am sorry they unfriended you, especially as it seems to bother you. Maybe they just couldn’t handle any more potlical posts. I personally am mad at myself because I can’t actually truly honest about my feelings there for work reasons. Having said that, maybe being truly hoenst isn’t what people want because it seems divisive.
I’ve unfriended a lot of people since 2016. Good riddance. If I see them, I say hi, we chat about whatever, but not about fb. Will I invite them to dinner? Nope.
Personally, I’d be as friendly as ever and not mention it. They might have unfriended you because they WANT to still remain on good terms.
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I would not worry about getting ghosted on FB. Maybe get worried if they don’t come to family events or avoid you that way!
FB is not everyone’s ride or die in terms of communicating with people
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I’ve was on Twitter for a time, but I don’t remember being bombarded by posts from strangers insisting they’ve contacted me and that I’m ghosting them. It’s very unsettling.
Don’t take Facebook personally. I’m not even friends with my brother on FB lol.
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