@sbinaz -thats beyond rude, it’s harassment.
Has she talked to management about that?
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100% agree with FallGirl! Your daughter should not have to tolerate touchy feely men of any age! Would it help to step back/away when they try it? Ugh
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Just yesterday a woman at Mahjongg was saying there was a big brouhaha at water aerobics over the weekend. This woman said she and 2 others were chatting in the deep end and the instructor came to scold them about talking during class, too loud, and about something political. My friend said they may have been talking too loud but the rest of the class wasn’t near them and wasn’t impacted by the conversation. The other two women will not go back. My friend has tougher skin and there is only one class offered on Sundays so she’ll suck it up.
This instructor likes to be in control. I took a class from her and she kept asking me if I was okay or feeling like I was going to drown. No, I could just put my feet on the bottom if I felt I couldn’t keep up. But really, this isn’t like Olympics aerobics. Most instructors in any class say “It’s YOUR workout, do it your way” (as long as you aren’t disruptive to others)
That seems more than rude and could enter the realm of criminal behavior. Are these customers ones who see Jeffrey Epstein as a role model?
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On occasion, I have had to touch someone to get their attention because they had earbuds in and couldn’t hear “excuse me”. Yesterday, in fact, a woman in front of me on the sidewalk had a backpack and the outer pocket was unzipped. I had to touch her shoulder because she couldn’t hear me. She was surprised, then pleasant and grateful to know.
Having said that, I would imagine that a Walmart employee could hear a customer with a question.
Yes, and it seems as if the female customers do not have this problem. Hmmmm…
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I agree with these sentiments. They remind me of a podcast with Mel Robbins, who was talking about her book, The Let Them Theory. Her two main points were 1. Let Them and 2. Let Me.
The premise is that people will be happier if they focus on what they can control and letting go of the need to control others. As with most good ideas it sounds great, but the execution is difficult with lots of (often unforeseen) complications and pitfalls.
As parents I think we can all agree that there came a point where we had to deal with the fact that we cannot control our children…nor should we, but that’s another discussion. Yet there are lots of books/strategies/opinions about the “right way” to raise a child. The fact is raising children (not just having them) is both a privilege and a burden.
Where am I going with this train of thought? Well, I believe much of what we’re witnessing/experiencing is a collective awakening when it comes to control. The daily reminders of our very real “lack of control” leads to increasing levels of frustration and disappointment. It manifests as angry outbursts/interactions and unfortunately in some very disturbing violent acts.
What do I choose to do? I try to live the 5 tenets of taekwondo: Courtesy, Integrity, Perseverance, Self-Control, and Indomitable Spirit. I also consciously choose/embrace hope. I am trying to refuse the bait and be manipulated. I will consciously resist the anger and despair…and search/connect with others who reject intimidation and false narratives.
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That seems to be a reminder of this (regarding “NPCs” and loss of agency):
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Such a great concept. Sometimes, we shouldn’t let them - but often we can. And sometimes we can’t make ourselves do the right thing - but often we can.
It’s so important to remember that we can manage our reactions to things.
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Yes, one older man said I was “being fresh” when I said that turning on the fan would make it warmer due to the physics of the room. (Part of a longer discussion but he wanted to bloviate.)
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