My DH is a connector. I am an accommodator. So the only times that we’ve ever gotten together with his relatives is when he and I initiate and push for it and WE make it happen.
I don’t have the patience anymore to fall all over myself accommodating them. DH has been too distracted with work the last few years to make an effort forcing connections. So to them, we are out of sight, out of mind. Now that DH’s mother died, there’s less communication on their part than before.
My DH is more bothered by this than I am. I am not doing Super Accommodator Mode anymore. I’ll do some but not to the level that I did before I had cancer 5 yr ago. Life is too short for me to waste my time anymore on people who have made it clear that they don’t give a rip about us.
I’ve also pruned a lot from my social media list.