Agree with your approach. And also agree that the stuff you did when your spouse’s parents were alive becomes a very heavy lift once they are all gone. It’s one thing to get together for Mother’s Day/Father’s Day (long distances, tough day for restaurants so someone ends up with the meal prep AND the clean up) when it means a lot to the older generation. Once they are gone, either someone cares enough to do the arranging, or it all falls apart. And what once made me sad (the falling apart piece) now makes me realize how lucky I am with my own siblings/extended family.
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