<p>It seems kind of silly for there to be coldness toward the parents when it's the kids relationship. I hope, if someone breaks up with one of my kids, I wouldn't hold the parents responsible. I hope I wouldn't even hold the kid responsible. Kids are entitled to break off a relationship if it isn't working for them. Now if they treat my kids poorly, then I'll be miffed- but not just for ending something.</p>
<p>My daughter had a boyfriend on the east coast for over a year. While he visited and spent time at our house, I never met his parents, who live in a different state from either us or the kids. </p>
<pre><code>My son has been going with a girl for over four years. The girl's mom and I were friends before the relationship, and we're better friends now. Yes, if they ever break up, we'll both be crying on each other's shoulders! I think we'll both be upset, but not at anyone.
<p>Since the kids informed us recently that they will be moving in together in the fall, we're sort of holding our breath, and wondering why they don't get married. But they are young (22) and don't feel ready. I think it is just a matter of time, and a little more money in the bank.
I don't worry about the kids staying together due to the moms' friendship. They just aren't that concerned about their moms feelings regarding their lives. If they really were concerned about pleasing us, they'd get married, dammit! ;)</p>