<p>I’m a teacher. I don’t love neediness. I love it when students take responsibility for their own actions (or lack of action) and invest as much in their educations as I do.</p>
<p>Some students do sometimes come to me for advice, especially about college applications, and I’m glad to be able to help them. But the kinds of needy situations described in other posts in this thread would drive me nuts, and I’m afraid, elicit an unsympathetic “grow up and act responsibly” from me. I am not a hand-holder as a teacher or as a parent.</p>
<p>I’m sorry to say the OP could be describing a couple of my colleagues. I was going to say more but decided against it. I’ll just say that we have very different standards of professionalism. Fortunately, they are very much in the minority among our faculty.</p>