<p>I am sorry, but I am really in need of advice. I definitely appreciated all the advice from before, and I am looking into counseling. My mom is also coming to stay with me for a bit. I really need to get through the next few days. My friend seems reluctant to have me stay with her, and I really can’t be alone right now. Is there anywhere in New York where I could go to not be alone especially at night – maybe something like a support center?</p>
<p>I really hope someone knows of some place I could go just for a few days. I am not suicidal or anything, but I am still in a really bad shape. I just really need some company, since I can’t sleep, and I am afraid I will get desperate and try to contact him. I just need some support.
I have to be in the city, because I will lose my job if I leave so going elsewhere is not an option.</p>
<p>1-800-273-TALK.</p>
<p>Please pick up the phone RIGHT NOW and TALK! Do not wait any longer.</p>
<p>I have talked to people (I am with someone right now). I just want to not be physically alone. I have people I can talk to over the phone.</p>
<p>When will your mom arrive? … I know the feeling of desperately not wanting to be alone, and the comfort derived simply by having a physical presence nearby. I’m glad someone’s with you now.</p>
<p>What about checking into a youth hostel for the night?</p>
<p>A local clergy person may be helpful. The yellow pages would have listings. I know someone who got wonderful referrals from a local hospital. If you need to, go to the emergency room. It may sound extreme but they may be able to get you immediate help from someone on call. Good luck.</p>
<p>You seem to have a lot of concerned moms, right here on CC. Hang in there!</p>
<p>My mom gets here in a few nights, but I don’t want to go through hell before then. I wish there was some sort of a support group where people could just go. I appreciate all the advice, but I wish there was a specific place I could go. I just can’t search for it. I am so tired. I need someone. He also deleted me from his facebook as a friend and cut of all contact. I always thought he would bhe the one. The pain and the regret is like nothing I’ve ever felt.
Is there no place or person that are specifically there for that? I am too uncomfortable to go to a priest – I don’t know why…</p>
<p>You say you have friends with whom you can speak by phone. Do you have any friends in the city where you are now? Can you ask to sleep over and spend the night with them? </p>
<p>In the meantime, keep talking to friends or a hotline by phone. Do this until you get very tired and are ready to fall asleep for the night and continue to talk to more people tomorrow. Go out for a walk for part of the time in between or to a cafe. </p>
<p>Is there a counseling center near you that you can call or visit? Are you in the city where you went to college and can you avail yourself of their services? Take it one day at a time.</p>
<p>There is only one person (besides my mom) who I can talk to, and due to some circumstances, I can’t stay with her much longer. On the phone, I can talk to people but not this late and not about this. Yes, I feel very isolated. Plus, it just really matters not to be alone right now. </p>
<p>By the way, thank you for all your posts. I check this like every five minutes, and I am just so happy that people are responding 
Thanks! I feel so much less alone.</p>
<p>We may not be there in a physical sense, but we assuredly can “talk” to you … and we care. You’re not alone. … Sometimes when I’m down, I log onto CC and read what people are saying. I’ll often jump into a conversation/debate or whatever and contribute my 2 cents. Sometimes in the middle of the night. It gives me a comforting sense of community. … Still, talk to a professional as soon as you can.</p>
<p>Hindoo gave you a great idea. If nobody is available to be with you physically at the moment, read some message boards online…could be this one but also search out some support group ones about relationships. Read through them as something to help you or even as a distraction. You can even communicate on them so you are not truly alone even if nobody is there in the room with you. Do this until you get sleepy. </p>
<p>Any chance mom can come sooner? If not, talk to her by phone and see what she suggests.</p>
<p>I love reading this board – it definitely takes my mind off of things, and reading relationship stuff on other boards just makes me sadder.</p>
<p>The really sad part is that I am still hoping he comes back. I feel like I just can’t let go.</p>
<p>Have you visited the board for the college you just graduated from (guessing from your screenname)? Maybe there are inbound freshman you could help, if they have questions?</p>
<p>yes. I suggest you don’t read relationship boards. How about getting involved in the political threads in the cafe? Do you have some videos you could watch? Something lighthearted, maybe? Or a novel? Or maybe you could think up some project. The trick is to try to get engrossed in something that will take your mind off your sadness.</p>
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<p>I feel your pain! There’s nothing quite like the agony, angst, anger, and anguish (:() of ending a relationship. I’ve been there, done that, and it was awful! But trust me, time is a great healer if you allow it to be. Keep yourself busy as marite advised. Read, write, work, clean, talk on the phone. (And don’t forget to eat! … That’s the Jewish mother in me.) And do try to find a professional counselor to help you sort things out. It really helped me all those years ago even though I spent most of my time in her office, crying and raging. I eventually worked through it and have now been married–to a different guy!–for 22 happy years. You WILL survive … it can be done!</p>
<p>I don’t think my mom will come. I don’t think I can handle that any more than I can handle being alone. She keeps telling me that I feel so broken because I want to, and if I didn’t subconscieously want to feel that way I wouldn’t. She also says that if I slept earlier, I wouldn’t feel that way, and she kind of makes fun of me for not being able to sleep. She also says that he left me because I changed, and if I were to go to law school, take care of my appearance better, he would come back. On top of everything, she says that he only wanted to be with me because I looked good (she never even spoke to him and I have NO idea where this is coming from). I just feel worse talking to her, and she makes me miss him so badly, because he is the only one I could talk to about how my parents hurt me.</p>
<p>Egads! Maybe it’s better if your mom doesn’t come. It sounds like she’s got serious issues of her own. … Call one of the help numbers earlier posters gave you. Make an appointment with someone you can see face-to-face. Try not to let your parents bring you down. You’re a good soul and things will get better.</p>
<p>I just wish someone would be willing to put up with my sadness and take care of me just for a bit. Everyone seems to either have their own lives or I don’t even know…</p>
<p>I will definitely try counseling, but I can’t afford to go to more than very few sessions a month. I have a $20 copay, and I am barely making ends meet supporting myself in New York City.</p>
<p>Here is really the last place left for me.</p>