Does your child's education come with strings attached?

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<p>We told our kids we would pay for UG, with no loans- we have been able to equalize different situations by providing the cost to live in the dorm, then they can choose ot live on or off campus, save more, spend more, work more on their own, etc.</p>

<p>Grad school gets more confusing in terms of what is fair- we try not to make dollar amounts fair, but rather go by the situation. If kid 1 is a PhD candidate with funding- starving student living, but funding nevertheless; and that kid is FAFSA independent, that is pretty easy, but then if the next kid comes along with med/law/biz school, which considers parent finances and is pretty expensive- will we give that kid more $ or let him/her take more loans? I think it will depend on what the package looks like at the time.</p>

<p>We will probably pay off the humanities grad student’s loans when the final degree is awarded, but they would be much smaller than a professional school student loan! We’ll just have to see what it looks like when the time comes.</p>

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<p>Son is expected to work summers to pay for his play money. We never discussed expectations explicitly because I’d be astonished if there were a problem. On the Dean’s List first term freshman year. Haven’t thought ahead to possible grad schools. We are lucky to have inherited enough money to pay for college for two kids.</p>

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<p>Does your child’s education come with strings attached? </p>

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<p>“Do you require certain behavior to keep supporting your child in college?
Do you require certain GPA?
What happens if your child doesn’t keep it up? Do you reduce their support? What if they then drop out, or blow off grad school?
Thoughts, ideas?”</p>

<p>It’s called PARENTING… many variations exist, many methods and styles from the most strict to “free range”. </p>

<p>We will always support our children, if you mean monitarily then ask that as support has many meanings. </p>

<p>In college their grades are their business as is their choice of occupations, they “live” with the results, not us. literally and figuratively. (sp)</p>