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I do not know what you are talking about. By “results in thinking of a gender in that way only,” I meant that it instils, in the mind of the viewer, an image of that gender portraying the gender’s purpose merely to satisfy mens’ desires at the expense of women’s lives (in the case of women). If the female in discussion was a male, the opinions I expressed throughout this thread would remain consistent. </p>
<p>In my opinion I don’t really see it as <em>Horrible</em> but what is she going to do after she gets her degree? Her hiring managers are going to be like “That’s that girl we saw on the view who paid for college doing porn! We need her as a representative in our company!”… No… </p>
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Those are just secondary reasons for doing it, but in my opinion the immediate effects are much worse. </p>
<p>@bay I lose my say over them, that is a very important difference. I don’t lose my ability to guide and advise, just the ability to stop them. I ma sure many parents don;t realize that…</p>
<p>@collegegirl8791 What if her hiring managers run a company called Vivid entertainment? ( According to Forbes Magazine Vivid’s annual revenue is estimated to be $100 million USD.[15] The same estimate was given by Business Week in June 2006.)</p>
<p>Not saying its a good thing just that there are plenty of places that may not look down on her choices just because everyone here does.</p>
<p>Agree the relationships in families change as we and our kids and parents age, but we still do what we can to protect them from harmful choices in whatever ways we can instead of just saying, “wow, we support you,” and then condoning their behavior that we believe is harmful. </p>
<p>I love my kids, parents and sibs but would do my all to keep them from doing something I believe would give them lifelong notoriety, no natter what our respective ages are. Don’t see that in action with thus young female, child/woman. </p>
<p>I think I would go to the ends of the earth to find the tuition $ if I were her parents. So long as she agreed to leave the porn career behind. While giving her the $ is not the healthiest message either (in view of the fact that she turned down full ride from V), it is much less harmful of a message than the one that is currently playing in her own head.</p>
<p>I suspect however, that even if her tuition were paid in full for the next 4 years, that Miriam still might be involved in the porn industry. I think there is something more going on here than meets the eye.</p>
<p>I agree with the sentiment but, "Give me tuition or I’ll do porn flicks,’ is not going to get an OK around here.</p>
<p>But, yeah, this is much more complicated than needing some quick cash and sadly I don’t think there will be a full recovery.</p>
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<p>Not true at all, read what former female porn actresses have said about the industry. Often they are told they are doing normal roles but are then put with several men with jacked up ** and told they have to stick with the change or not be paid. Of course they do it and are torn apart and left bleeding everywhere once the shoot is finished. @romanigypsyeyes </p>
<p>I would also add that due to these over the top scenes, the actors often have to get high/numb prior to the shoots in order to get through them, I don’t know if you have ever watched pornography but it is obvious that most of the actors are drugged out of their minds.</p>
<p>I just read an article where she said she gets turned on by pain, was in to cutting (even the word “fat” into her leg) and said “I deserve to be punished because I’m a slut”. In some of her movies rape is depicted and she gets “slapped around”. This from the daily mail. The girl has serious issues, probably a mental illness and needs help. She is also a Freshman but seems to have been doing this for some time. It’s only second semester but some how her parents were able to pay, did pay for who knows how long, suddenly couldn’t, and then she’s immediately flying out to LA on the weekends to make pornos? Doesn’t even seem like the time line fits. And just when did she turn 18? If she was only “outed” because another Duke student saw her in a film, I’d want to know when that film was made and any others. She could very well have been underage. She also is a Women’s Studies major–unbelievable. I hope she isn’t considering porn as “research”. </p>
<p>“I say go for it, if it’s working for her. Girls do all sorts of things to pay for college because it’s a struggle to pay for it! If she can raise the money, that’s great. And yes, she’ll be looked down upon in her future for being a former porn star, but that’s on of society’s problems. There’s nothing wrong with porn - being in it, watching it, whatever. Plenty of girls work as bartenders because it’ll pay well and help with college tuition costs, this is just a more extreme version of that.”</p>
<p>@nicolehayleyr Nothing wrong with porn? I am not going to get into graphic details because some of the stuff I have seen is just twisted and disgusting to any “normal” person but I have seen some porn movies where the guys go at it so rough that I would probably consider it “borderline rape” on camera.</p>
<p>Do you even understand what this type of experience does to a woman emotionally and psychologically? I will never forget when I lived in Arizona, a young girl who was doing porn, she was living the “good life”, lived in a nice home, drove a BMW, she hung herself. Her name was Angela Devi.</p>
<p>If you want to educate yourself on this subject, look up how many porn “stars” have become drug addicts, or committed suicide, the numbers are staggering. Oh wait, it is just “extreme bartending”</p>
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<p>That is one of the most ridiculous things I have ever read on this board.</p>
<p>^^ Hum… kind of like a serial killer is playing an extreme version of tag?</p>
<p>No idea why having a healthy interest in sex and wanting to capitalise on it to pay your way through college is seen as morally reprehensible. She brings up a good point: our society demonises sex to a point that shames women for having any public interest in it. Anyone who condemns her and then consumes porn is a hypocrite - as I imagine most of you are.</p>
<p>Have you seen her videos? Nothing happy or healthy there. And, any points she may be making are completely wiped out by her obvious instability. I don’t think anyone is condemning her. She needs help. </p>
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<p>I don’t recall seeing many posts on this thread taking a “moral” stance on her decisions. Also take issue with “healthy interest in sex”. Engaging in sex with multiple partners who are infected with numerous STDs is not “healthy.” The studios routinely test for HIV but they do not test for all STDs. Furthermore, in spite of testing, </p>
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<p>NOTHING about the above sounds like a wise choice for someone with “a healthy interest in sex.”</p>
<p><a href=“LA Porn Stars Have More STDs Than Nevada Prostitutes, Study Says (VIDEO) | HuffPost Los Angeles”>HuffPost - Breaking News, U.S. and World News | HuffPost;
<p>@dubaitragedy, I am going to go out on a limb and make the assumption that you do not have children. It doesn’t really matter whether or not the people on this board are making judgments about her choices. The stark reality is that the world will judge her much more harshly than the genuinely concerned parents here on this board. This is an intelligent young girl who has already done damage to her future prospects in life. All we are saying is that someone should step in and make an attempt to re-direct her. It’s the pornography industry that will end up condemning her in the long run.</p>
<p>Her morals are the least of her worries, IMO.</p>
<p>Actually most of society at large AND the porn industry are and will continue judging her AND others. It doesn’t matter whether folks on CC somehow can agree that for some reason this female should NOT be judged, she will be anyway. The deeper she gets into it, the harsher the judgments among the wider group of people. </p>
<p>As was said, many of us parents wish someone close to her cared enough and was able to redirect her constructively; doesn’t appear any such efforts are being made on her behalf. That saddens many of us parents. </p>
<p>Welp, at least she’s hot. :bz</p>
<p>But still, she shouldn’t be putting her family under such stress. If she knew she would struggle paying the tuition at Duke, she should have looked elsewhere. I don’t think having a degree from Duke will obscure her now tainted reputation.</p>