<p>spideygirl, I missed that part of the thread.</p>
<p>I just got a beer . . . does that count? I’m with you, Coleytown!!!</p>
<p>CoolRunning, in between sips, try to ponder the fact that the OP did not ask for emotional support, but for information. After pages and pages of posts by her and many others (like you), there was much brought up that any one of us can respond to. Don’t try to change the nature of the discussion or characterize it any differently because one person chimed in with points you cannot dispute. It is fantasy that the OP was here gently looking for emotional support. I gave it to her anyway, by the way, and I meant it, but then I also responded in kind to her posts.</p>
<p>I will be giving my staff wine in about 40 mins (5pm here), just sent my PA to pick up some ice and cups. Here is my vitual glass of wine to you all.</p>
<p>^ Burp!!! Spidey, you are not forgiven.</p>
<p>I went to a Jesuit school for undergrad, and saw/smelled plenty of pot smoked. I don’t recall the administration ever getting upset about it or anybody getting caught. But I never understood why guys for whom pot was clearly a vital part of their lives didn’t pick a college where it was more widely accepted…like a freewheeling state school or a private school without a moral compass.</p>
<p>In my day, most student associations kept an attorney (or law firm) on retainer for just such occasions. It helped a couple of friends of mine to have one available. Not sure if this is still the case. Consulting a lawyer these days costs me $450/hr.</p>
<p>Thanks , Oldfort! You’ve got class. It is 6:22 PM here.</p>
<p>Coletown - Sounds to me like you’ve done a great job with your son. Gotta say, I agree with every opinion that you’ve expressed in this thread - from the stupidity of the formal rules, to the need to accept the the process once you’ve been trapped. And especially about the importance of the real rules: being honorable, and being there for your friends (vs. snitching).</p>
<p>“She hasn’t and won’t snitch but I wouldn’t consider it a bad thing if she did.”</p>
<p>I’ll go a step further in the smoking-in-the-suite scenario – I don’t even consider it snitching if someone is hurting you by breaking a rule, and they refuse to stop, and you call in the authorities to make them stop. Smoking anything in a shared indoor space is a grave imposition on the non-participants.</p>
<p>To me, snitching implies a scenario where the crime is none of the snitch’s business. Interference with your quiet enjoyment of your home is always your business.</p>
<p>Sounds like RM was traveling down a dangerous path, judging by the fact that he was hanging out with at least one kid who was much deeper in the drug culture than he was. This suspension could be just what he needs to wake him up to his peril.</p>
<p>Kudos to the “snitch” who turned him in…a giant slap upside the head is sometimes the only thing that some kids will listen to. I’m sure that he now can see how he jeopardized his whole future, everything he’s worked for. I’m glad that the school will welcome him back in the fall and let him keep his scholarship.</p>
<p>It’s funny that many schools (and people) are more tolerant of pot smoking in the dorms than of cigarettes, incense, and candles - which are also banned due to being fire hazards and polluting. But hey, they’re no fun…</p>
<p>Spideygirl - judgmental much?? Geez… glass houses or there but for the grace of god and all that… everyone makes mistakes. The things that went on when we were all teenagers, and that was when the drinking age was 18!</p>
<p>Coleytown - hope it all works out. I agree with MisterK, you sound like a good parent, and a lot like many of us here. There are far, far worse offenses than having a fake id (found via fruit of the poisonous tree, perhaps) and your S will hopefully come out unscathed. As previous poster pointed out (astrophysicsmom?), campus authorities are more likely to focus on the much worse crime here. I hope so. </p>
<p>If it helps, a relative of mine (a girl) was caught with a bong in her backpack at 1:30 am at a jesuit college a few years back by the campus police. When asked where she was coming from when stopped, she said the library (which closed at midnight, duh…). She was “taken in”, parents called, required to do many hours of community service and put on probation for awhile. </p>
<p>I sincerely hope this works out for your son, and you can probably be assured that he will not be stepping foot in a bar until he is 21!</p>
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<p>You might want to slow down, you are seeing things. No one asked for forgiveness.</p>
<p>what is the latest on this?</p>
<p>can someone give an update?</p>
<p>guitarist’s mom - My posts were in response to pages and pages of judgmental and negative responses from the OP and an active peanut gallery of other posters (all lobbing negativity at others who came on here to contribute). I came in late to the discussion. If the OP didn’t want to hear what people had to say, she should not have been harsh to others who came before me. Sometimes the best advice, BTW, comes from those who bring things that are difficult to hear. Goofballs who agree with everything we have to say, particularly when we are thinking in the wrong way, are not really being helpful.</p>
<p>WOW… this thread makes me shake my head! Sorry there is so much judgement here, when you came here looking for answers. I guess there are some perfect parents with perfect kids,I’ve just never met any of them…</p>
<p>OP, sounds like your doing the right thing, sorry your being attacked, good luck! Try to be patient while you enjoy your wine :-)</p>
<p>yes, spideygirl, what makes you think I didn’t read the entire thread?</p>
<p>Okay people, leave spidey alone. Nuff said. We have our opinions, which in the fine print details may diverge, as far as we know, and she has hers, and we don’t need to do this anymore. TOS says: No personal attacks.</p>
<p>Glad it all worked out for your son.</p>
<p>:shakehands:</p>
<p>what is the latest on this?</p>
<p>can someone give an update?</p>