What about this one, @Gourmetmom?:
https://www.overstock.com/Clothing-Shoes/Evanese-Womens-Elegant-Slip-on-Long-Formal-Evening-Party-Dress-with-Empire-Waist-Full-Skirt-and-Short-Sleeves/12739734/product.html
There are a few other contenders on BHLDN, so I sent her the link.
Here’s a simple modest long sleeve long dress that comes in many colors:
Ignore the hat, but this is nice for her age and a little different:
http://www.peruvianconnection.com/product/711722-windsor+dress.do?code=19USG101&utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=pla&nooverride=1&gclid=Cj0KCQiA8f_eBRDcARIsAEKwRGfJtDqdgD9ip9D1dobDeBaLQTxyO8aD–cp4nwYdp8NfW2fiGXVlnsaAt0jEALw_wcB
For a Muslim wedding, I am would err on the side of caution and pick something with a closed back and long sleeves, kind of like this, but not as gloomy:
https://www.neimanmarcus.com/p/the-row-yulia-long-sleeve-satin-gown-dark-blue-prod198750085
Free People bohemian style long dress:
https://shop.nordstrom.com/s/free-people-mexicali-rose-maxi-dress/5000834?origin=category-personalizedsort&breadcrumb=Home%2FWomen%2FClothing%2FDresses&color=ivory
I asked my sister in law who is Lebanese and she said much depends on what culture the bride and groom are from. Most of her family is basically secular and they dress much as we do. She said it’s best to ask the bride and groom. She said if your D doesn’t have guidance from the couple she should stick to no open back, no low v neck, sleeves and longer length.She said just because women are covered they still want to be stylish. Some women who cover up have some pretty flashy cocktail dresses on under and when it’s just the women they take off the covering and it looks like any cocktail party minus men.
I know the bride, who was one of D’s college roommates, and she dresses very modestly - I’ve also met her parents who are from Morocco and her mom wears a hijab. Not sure if anyone will wear a cocktail dress under a covering - I doubt the bride would since I’ve never seen her in anything remotely like that.
D likes this one on a website @soozievt linked. Is the neckline too low? She’s not busty at all.
@gourmetmom, I had seen that dress on BHLDN but didn’t suggest it due to the neckline and your original criteria. And then there was the dress slit. Did you check out the other dresses I have linked to on this thread (not at BHLDN)?
I attended a Muslim wedding last year (Afghani/Pakistani couple) and have never seen such stunning outfits in my entire life. The women’s attire was completely modest but oh, so very glitzy. The silks, the beading…wow. I wore a covered up dress just below the knee and felt like such a Plain Jane due to my lack of bling! There were a few young women in typical Western-style cocktail clothes and they looked overexposed in that environment. I would encourage modesty but also to let loose with whatever glitter she’s got, if she enjoys wearing jewelry, etc.
Yes, I was going to comment on the bling aspect! The more the merrier.
@oneofthosemoms–any idea how one could order or obtain one of those lovely outfits if one lives in the US? They sound amazing!
That’s good to know. Although D won’t let a sequin touch her body, she will definitely wear jewelry.
Wow–really colorful and lovely outfits.
https://www.saneens.com/products/afghan-fashion-clothes-in-red-color-seeta-qasemi-afghani-dress.html
@HImom, this might give some idea, although the dresses I saw did not have exposed arms as many of these do:
There were also several Indian women at the wedding clad in stunning sari, and the bride…don’t even get me started. I can’t imagine how much her dress weighed, every bit of it covered in pearls. Which might sound over the top, but it was just gorgeous and she looked like a queen.
I should add that I attended the walima, which is the celebration hosted by the groom’s family after the nikah, the actual ceremony. I believe the nikah to be more religious and not glitzy; someone attending a nikah might wish to be more modest in their attire. It’s a good idea to be clear on which event(s) the invitation covers.
Wow, a heavy gown sounds tough to tolerate, especially if the venue is hot and not air-conditioned, as the church I and many were married in, in the summer with the humidity. The gowns ARE lovely, but weight is definitely something that ought to be considered.