<p>so we had an unknown kid - acquaintance/friend of our son’s - sneak alcohol into a gathering on the last day of school at our house – freshman year. We walked through the party every 15 minutes to just “check on things.” HAD NO IDEA a kid had sneaked it in. Have no idea who all had it or not. But as soon as we realized something was going on, we shut down the party, made kids text their parents and leave, and had a BIG TALK with our son. He didn’t know this kid was bringing in alcohol, but once he did realize it, he did NOT tell us; and that’s why we were angry. We still don’t know who was the sneaker; not sure our son does as well. We were quite naive i guess; it was our oldest son and we had never been faced with this situation. it hasn’t happened again.</p>
<p>however, in no way would i take the blame for a kid who sneaks alcohol into my bathroom to share with another kid. would you?</p>
<p>@periwinkle usually a core of repeat offenders.
And I feel for this kid. They made the right decision if they didn’t want to partake in the activities at the party, but their parent most likely killed their social life for a large portion of high school.</p>
<p>My best friend in HS snuck alcohol into an all girls campout at my house. I got rid of it so she called her brothers friends who picked her up and took her to a bar in the next small town. She came back drunk hours later. I took care of her the rest of the night. My parents knew about it all before I told them. Someone from the bar called them. When my parents called hers, and everyone else’s, the next day, her parents said “our daughter would never do that!” Boy were they wrong. I was out one friend but oh so much wiser for the rest of HS. Yes, I would call the parents myself and hope my kids would not be surprised. I made a different social life and my kids would be able to as well. </p>