<p>On the “hive of activity” topic: The number and breadth of opportunities at larger universities seems to be a basic fact. Whether or not that is best for any given kid is not something that can be answered without said kid in front of you, however. The discussions about value and opportunity seem to often center on a fantasy kid who is a totally rational maximizer on all fronts. I have one kid who more closely resembles this model and seems to know what he wants and knows how to get it. He will walk into anyone’s office, call anyone on the phone, ask the right questions and make arrangements with people. He pulls strings and could sell ice to the Eskimo whether they need it or not. He was born advocating for himself. He is the mythical “bloom where planted” kid. Not every kid is like that, though. Some need fewer choice, fewer voices and more guidance to find their direction. I also have a kid who did not check the “switchboard operator” box in the work study form because she does not like to talk to people on the phone. 
The good thing is, she knows that about herself and has sought out an environment that will stretch her boundaries and provide many opportunities, but with a homier touch.</p>