<p>Ds wants to ask a senior girl to the prom. How far in advance should he ask?</p>
<p>I told him he needs to ask this week as we are now about a month out. He says his self-imposed deadline is the end of the month. At his school, going stag or with a group of firends is no big deal at all, so I imagine any number of girls he might ask already have a dress. But is it an insult to wait and ask three weeks out?</p>
<p>He who hesitates is lost.
I vote he asks her sooner than later, how about tomorrow?
Friday is a good day, if she says no, he can lick his wounds over the weekend.
Better ask before some other dude asks her and ruin his plans.</p>
<p>Agree with #2; I know many kids are our high school are already asked by this time of the year for a prom that is usually the last weekend in April.</p>
<p>I think these two links might answer that</p>
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<p>Our school quits sells bids (tickets) for one week, and that’s 5 weeks in advance. Three weeks isn’t an insult, but I’m sure several of the girls would have been asked at that point. Is he a gambler?</p>
<p>Tell him that he needs to order his tux at least one month in advance.</p>
<p>Thanks, thrill! Sent those to him. ;)</p>
<p>If there is someone in particular he wants to ask, he shouldn’t be dithering. My son did that, and the girl ended up going with one of his best friends. (But she and son starting dating shortly afterwards, and are still an item three years later, so I guess it wasn’t fatal.)</p>
<p>My daughter’s boyfriend brought her some flowers about two weeks ago, then they took a hike to a bluff where they watched the sunset and he formally asked her to the prom. Quite a romantic fellow. I don’t think your son has to do that!</p>
<p>A lot of the kids at this town’s schools go as a group, without dates, by the way, which I think is pretty common now. My son and his friends went to a dinner beforehand as a group, 5 couples and one guy who could not get past his shyness to ask anyone. He didn’t mind.</p>
<p>He should ask immediately. The girl may not have been planning to attend prom if she didn’t have a date and therefore may not have a suitable dress. If she decides to accept your son’s invitation, she will need time for shopping.</p>
<p>Ask ASAP!!! It’s a compliment to the girl, and you avoid the possibility that she’s already been asked.</p>
<p>My nephew asked a girl by buying a bunch of helium balloons…some with her name on it, some with the words, “Prom” on it and had them where she usually parked in the morning. When she arrived, he asked her. She was thrilled.</p>
<p>My daughter liked being asked early.</p>
<p>Although my S, like a number of his male friends, chose not to go to prom, I heard from friends whose kids did go that often kids around here ask someone so early that by the time prom rolls around they are dating someone else. I gather that this situation is not considered unusual.</p>
<p>So asking sooner rather than later would be a good idea.</p>
<p>My senior son who hangs out with a mixed group of kids but hates dances did promise me that he would ask someone to the prom. He was very surprised when one of his classmates who has been a friend since kindergarten asked him a week ago. He thought that he had plenty of time to think about who to ask. He decided that a. he didn’t want to hurt her feelings and b. since he has been friends for so long he knows that he will have fun and she gets along well with all of his friends, he would go with her. Later that day, I got an email from the mother of “the hottest girl in the junior class” hinting that her daughter would really like to go with him. I have not told him; what he doesn’t know in this case won’t hurt him. Sorry, my answer is a round-about way of saying “Don’t hesitate” because someone will beat you to it.</p>
<p>I really didn’t even think of someone else asking her. Ds’s school doesn’t have a big dating culture, but, yeah, if prom is moving even my son to act, then others are probably on the prowl as well.</p>
<p>The kids at my kid’s school often went in large groups, with or without actual dates, which was very nice for the girls who really want to attend but don’t always have a guy they can comfortably go with.
Even so, I told my son early on that if he went to the prom, or any of the formal dances, that I wouldn’t pay for his tux or ticket unless he asked a girl. There are always more girls than boys who want to go, and asking someone just seems like the more generous and gentlemanly thing to do.
If he didn’t have anyone in mind, he would ask his best girl bud for advice on possibilities of who to ask, as she would know who would welcome the invitation. It always worked out and they had a lot of fun. I don’t think he missed a formal in his four years of high school. He was Prom King senior year, so mom’s rule didn’t seem to hurt him any.</p>
<p>“My daughter’s boyfriend brought her some flowers about two weeks ago, then they took a hike to a bluff where they watched the sunset and he formally asked her to the prom. Quite a romantic fellow.”</p>
<p>This was a TEENAGE BOY?</p>
<p>Please take a picture of this individual for the benefit of science…I thought he was a myth, like the Loch Ness Monster.</p>
<p>moonchild, that was our thinking, too. We didn’t talk about the money, but we talked about how, yes, you could go with a group of guys and the girls would go in groups and everyone would end up dancing and it would be fine (like he’s done every year for homecoming), but sometimes a girl wants to be asked and it won’t kill him and wouldn’t it be nice to head off to college having had at least ONE date??? :)</p>
<p>Hanna, I have a friend in Cali whose ds went through this whole fancy process to make his gf a present that asked her to the prom. Really??? My ds would never do that as he is not into high maintenance!!!</p>
<p>Hanna,</p>
<p>This boy was born in France, although he has spent most of his life in the US. Aren’t French guys supposed to be romantic?</p>
<p>I guarantee that this sort of behavior would not have occurred to my son.</p>
<p>Daughter is at a small private high school. The kids seem to take care of each other. One friend was crushed when the boy she liked asked another. Friends rallied and have presented quite a catch for her. All is well. </p>
<p>Prom does seem to have morphed into an institution that is as much about friendships as romance.</p>
<p>But on a serious note: What is with all the short dresses? For goodness sake, why do these girls want to throw away one of their few chances in life to wear a LONG formal gown? Don’t they watch the Oscars? Don’t they know that less is more? A long dress can be more revealing and flattering than a short one - if that’s the intent. jmo</p>
<p>^^^I don’t know. My daughter just told me she wishes she could just buy a pretty dress that she can wear for other occasions. There wouldn’t be that many other occasions in the near future at which a long gown would be appropriate.</p>