<p>“Dinner: Texas barbque…chicken, tri ip, beef ribs and pork ribs. Creamy cheese grits, steamed vegetables, mac and cheese, mashed potatoes (garlic), regular salad, diddy reese cookies, fresh peach cobbler…beer/wine”</p>
<p>I am laughing. How did the pork ribs end up on the menu? Cheese and meat? :)</p>
<p>Pork ribs are not happening at my daughter’s wedding and the wedding will be not be religious. My mom would have a stroke. </p>
<p>There is a story here… What is it?</p>
<p>'This will be entertaining, ellebud… 
Have fun.</p>
<p>And yes- out of respect every male should, if comfortable, cover his head in a synagogue. </p>
<p>I want one of those cookies. Or three.</p>
<p><a href=“http://www.diddyriese.com/sandwichbuilder.php”>http://www.diddyriese.com/sandwichbuilder.php</a></p>
<p>I built candy/mint chip/double chocolate. But I find that a virtual ice cream sandwich is not as good as a real one.</p>
<p>Mazel tov!
Regarding communion:
In my experience being married to a Catholic, and attending many weddings and unfortunately funerals, You don’t want to offend but you don’t have to “sit quietly” if you don’t want to . It’s up to your home faith rules. You can get up with your row, file forward and as the server offers you the host, instead of opening your hands to accept it you cross your arms across your chest hand to shoulder and nod or dip slightly. He or she then blesses you and you proceed back to your seat. You are part of the ceremony without upsetting anyone.<br>
If your faith frowns on that much participation nobody minds if you just stay seated and let others pass by. </p>
<p>Best to you Elle as the weekend proceeds!</p>
<p>Yummm… Smooth sailing to you, Ellebud, through the rough waters of dealing with the in-laws! :)</p>
<p>The kippahs are deep navy silk. The benches are going to be at 2 tables where everything is eating imported kosher meals.</p>
<p>Ahh, the story of the bbq. Yes, we broke every rule of kosher. This was what my son wanted…and this was what he got. We also had a complete vegetarian buffet as well. Note to all: rsvp!!! I knew that we would have 69ish. Eighty seven people came. And yes…we have so much food left over we can eat for a month.</p>
<p>Ellebud, you are a peach to keep us posted as the weekend unfolds! What a bountiful dinner spread you had. May the rest of the weekend be as overflowing (with goodwill and joy)!</p>
<p>Was this sit down or buffet? How’d you get a head count?</p>
<p>We have to be patient and wait for the west coast people to wake up. </p>
<p>
</p>
<p>My math tells me that one in five people who showed up hadn’t RSVP’d. I’m shocked. These are adults, right? Under what rock have they been living??!!</p>
<p>VH, If you heard what a feast ellebud was having, wouldn’t you go? Better (& cheaper) than a restaurant.</p>
<p>Mazel tov, ellebud. My son would love what you had for your feast. In fact, were thinking of having the “rehearsal” dinner at a BBQ place. Although Jewish, we’re not kosher, and fdil isn’t Jewish. Yet to be decided.</p>
<p>For D1’s college graduation, we also had a catered barbecue from a well known place around her school. We expected ~70, we had over 100. A lot of people thought they were just going to stop by for few drinks then move on, but when they saw the barbecue they decided to stay and then they texted some people about how good the food was and more people came. </p>
<p>My s and future dil want a BBQ for their rehearsal dinner. We will apparently be inviting everyone (not just relatives and out if towners) to this, per their request.</p>
<p>We went to a fabulous BBQ at a sort of destination wedding. All of the guests were invited. It was awesome!!</p>
<p>I never considered that Catholic communion was exclusive as rude.
Different religions have different rules, and I just felt that learning them was a way to be respectful. I recall the older rules that are not in place today- no meat on Fridays, Mass in Latin, and so I knew, from an early age that Mass was for Catholics.
Some places require modest dress, some are casual. Some families, or events are more observant than others. I just think a general rule is to learn what is appropriate for different situations and try to be respectful, and focus on the reasons I am there- to be included in a life event of friends. </p>
<p>Not wishing to be fresh here…but if one goes for communion at any church…it’s not like they ask for an ID that verifies what religion you are.</p>
<p>Born and raised Catholic. I get to have an opinion on whether I think it’s rude or not. </p>
<p>Ether way, the bbq idea seems to be the way to go with the night before</p>
<p>So help me out here. People are now hosting a wedding for everyone followed by a reception with food and drinks. Okay, that’s standard. They are also hosting a party the night before the wedding for almost everyone with food and drinks? </p>
<p>Two big parties?</p>