<p>Congrats and good luck to all the UVa ADPis who will be helping with this year’s University of Delaware expansion and next year’s colonization at W&L! Back when I was an active, my GLO’s chapter assisted with colonization of a new chapter at a school near my university. It’s a fantastic experience that you will treasure.</p>
<p>Sounds like mom is getting too involved here. I have a friend at UVA who has a similar problem. My friend has a roommate who quit her sports team and is making life difficult for the friend because she is still on the team. From what I hear, the team did not care for the girl who quit, so that was no small loss but it makes it hard on friend when her roommate is up all hours of the night, talks on the phone while she is trying to sleep and has to compete the next day, etc. My friend is sticking it out though and figures college is about learning to get along with whomever. Who would want to move mid-year? Probably if mckin43 was not so involved in daughter’s life, she’d be fine. Mom probably needs to remember that she is getting one side of what is happening. Chill. It’s just a year and then she can move on.</p>
<p>My oldest sis had a roommate in college who was an only child and made her first year miserable! The roommate was use to having a room to herself, had no concept of anyone else but herself, her boyfriend came to visit often, stayed in the room (with all that entailed), her mother came often, called often, and even freaked and called the campus police if her daughter did not check in with her, and all in all, made my sis’s life pretty interesting. It would have been fun to hear this roommate’s and her mom’s concept of the year…I am sure as heck it differed from my sister’s! There is always more than one side or explanation.<br>
Another friend graduated from TJ and almost did not go to UVA because it was way too close for her mom to come visit. Perhaps mckin43 needs to take up a hobby and let her daughter work out her own issues and learn on her own.</p>
<p>Texas2:</p>
<p>Sounds to me like mckin43 has a great relationship with her daughter. What’s it to you? </p>
<p>Back in February, I asked mckin43 to elaborate on the roommate situation, because I was truly curious about how the university handles such debacles, and she was kind enough to answer my query.</p>
<p>Just because you have some friends with roommate issues (that might be interesting to some people), it doesn’t give you the right to start giving negative psycho-babble to someone who clearly has a loving relationship with her daughter. IMO, you should show some strong respect for such a bond.</p>
<p>Have you checked to see how many postings Mckin43 has on here? It’s great to have a good relationship with your child but come on! I just found it incredible that she would need to go into detail about so much of her daughter’s life. I wonder if her daughter likes that and even knows. </p>
<p>UVA handles roommate situations like every college. They expect if you are old enough to go to college, unless the situation is really horrible, that you can work it out and move on. Roomates get along, then don’t get along and then work it out. Everyone is different, has different sleep schedules, ways of studying, etc. .</p>
<p>Usually college students are very capable of figuring out what works for them and I am betting that her daughter is very capable of handling her life as well. I am sure most of our moms love us too but have no idea what college confidential is! Saying that someone needs to back off is not exactly “negative psycho-babble”! I just felt sorry for an undefended roommate who I am sure has her list of complaints as well - only she or her mom have not posted them and evidently she is trying to just work it out and get to the end of the year. </p>
<p>I am just suggesting, and you are well aware, that you are hearing one side of the story from a secondary source. Drop the issue… I plan to.</p>
<p>Good. Drop it, you should.</p>
<p>Just because you’re a grown adult in college doesn’t mean you’ll automatically be able to live with another person/people in close quarters. I’ve had first hand-accounts with this, and it isn’t that easy. If a person has never lived with anyone ever before, been hand-fed throughout their life at home, isn’t willing to work with the other person/people, and so forth, issues will arise. But sometimes the defending roommate gets screwed, sometimes it’s the girl that can’t stand up for herself. Both situations can and have risen. I don’t think either side is wrong when issues come up, but the person who isn’t willing to work to resolve the issue, no matter what, and the issue is a legit one…well, that person is the wrong one. If they’re not willing to work things through, maybe it is best to separate ways…</p>
<p>Thanks Powderpuff for the support…I know who Texas is so all this is hilarious. …nice try Texas 2…yes, my daughter and I have a great relationship and I was just on grounds yesterday for a sor. affair and had a great time. Yes, D is counting the days till the end of the sememster and looking forward to next year. By the way, D’s roomate was gone for the weekend and I have to tell you I expect dorm rooms to be messy, but roomate’s side was absolutely repulsive. It is so bad it stinks with dirty dried on food (using my D’s bowl), overflowing garbage and food mixed with clothes on the floor, trash and clothing mixed up everywhere. That is truly a lack of respect for yourself and your roomate. Nuff said.</p>
<p>I apologize to all that this has become a personal dispute in a public forum…I may have some thoughts to add on another thread but hopefully we are at the end of this one. </p>
<p>Congrats to all that have children that are about to attend UVA…its a great school and your kids will find their niche whatever it may be! Key…patience and flexibility in the transition. Powderpuff, whatever sor. you are in is lucky indeed!</p>