Your profile is a lot like my child’s. We are waiting for decisions from the most selective schools, so I have no predictions about your list, but will be curious to see how it all shakes out for both of you. I am confident you will do great wherever you land!
One thing that has made the waiting easier at our house is receiving acceptances from public universities and seeing nice merit offers come in from schools that would be appealing options. The thrill of multiple acceptances will take the edge off any future rejection, I hope. If you have the time and there are other similar options for you (and deadlines haven’t passed), you might consider applying to a few more safety schools that you think would be fun to attend.