<p>Yea Zoosermom!</p>
<p>Woody, I bought my dress for the wedding reception last night at Macy’s…great selection at the larger stores with a “Social Dresses” section. Several nice compliments, and DH loves it. Midnight blue, V-neck, sleeveless with a ruched waist, nice skirt for dancing. I would definately shop there again.</p>
<p>An update from the OP–I had a successful shopping expedition with my sister. It seems that because the colors that I am restricted to are in the darker range, I really have to buy a dress in the fall–when the spring dresses begin to be shown, the colors will be too light and won’t coordinate well with the plum and dark purple of the wedding colors. So–I actually found TWO dresses that fit great and look great (even if I don’t lose another pound) and I can order them in appropriate colors–a midnight blue or a purply-blue. I can wait another couple of months to actually order the dress I choose to give the diet the full opportunity. After that it will take about 8 weeks to get my finished dress–in plenty of time for our May wedding. NOW the question is at what point do I notify MOB–I’m thinking not until I have actually placed the order and it’s a done deal.</p>
<p>I agree, dg5052. No reason to give her more to chew on or opine about. Congrats on finding two great options!</p>
<p>Yes, definitely tell her you found ‘a’ (singular) dress once you’ve ordered. You’ve been very gracious in this situation. No need to risk the opportunity for this to be unpleasant. </p>
<p>Congratulations! I hope all continues to go smoothly. You deserve it! :)</p>
<p>Congrats on finding a dress! Woody – I found the dress you mentioned and it is gorgeous! I could only find it up to a 14…but it gives me ideas!</p>
<p>Congrats on the successful dress shopping!</p>
<p>That’s awesome! You must be very relieved.</p>
<p>Congrats on finding the dress(es) that fit the criteria!</p>
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<p>Any chance the styles might sell out in two months? The stores in my neck of the woods do not keep a large inventory…</p>
<p>BB, no because these dresses can be ordered in about 15 or 20 different colors, so my understanding is that each dress is made up on a custom basis only when it’s actually ordered. Now you’re making me nervous, though–so maybe I’ll just double check with the store–and the obsessing begins!</p>
<p>care to post the dress, dg5052?</p>
<p>dg, then you are most likely OK. Calling the store to double-check is still a good idea.</p>
<p>Mafool, I’m embarrassed to tell you that I don’t even know who the designers are, and the dress shop doesn’t have a website–so just picture me walking down the aisle looking like, um, Paula Zahn (I was told this years ago and I’m clinging to the comment)–but you just have to squinch up your eyes a lot :)</p>
<p>Yay on the dress success. I would wait to say anything.</p>
<p>You are right, dg5052, you look JUST like her! I don’t know how I missed it before.</p>
<p>I can’t tell you how much I have enjoyed this thread. For me, it represents the reason why I post and read here. Just a fun, interesting community of people.</p>
<p>Well, it looks like this thread will be going strong for nephew’s wedding tomorrow evening - remember, the tattoo artist? Did i mention the men in the bridal party will wear kilts? Should be fun!!</p>
<p>Woody, will you then be able to answer the age-old question–what the heck do they WEAR under those kilts??? Inquiring minds want to know!</p>
<p>I’m feeling very original. 
I was married in 1985, but no dusty rose. My bridesmaids–my sister and a friend–wore pale yellow linen drop-waist Eileen Fisher dresses, with whatever pale beigish shows they liked. (They actually wore the dresses again, frequently.) The men wore tan summer suits with lineny, finely striped Ralph Lauren ties with a pale yellow background. I would have preferred to go the navy blazer route, but one of my H’s brothers was very strapped for cash and we knew he already owned a tan summer suit, so…</p>
<p>My MIL asked me what my mother was wearing, and I told her “linen,” because that’s what my mother told me. As it turns out, my mother wore something nice that was floral and voile. My MIL wore a very nice linen dress, and was ticked off at me because it cost more than she usually spent. Of course, my MIL would have found some reason to be ticked off, no matter what. 
I’m one of those who has used their MIL as a pattern for how NOT to be a MIL.</p>
<p>We had a receiving line, but we only had 50 guests, and it was in the center hall of our house. (The wedding was in a very small white clapboard country chapel next door to my parents’ house, and the reception under a tent on the lawn, so everyone could walk.) </p>
<p>I don’t know what a “sweetheart table” is, but one thing that bothers me at weddings is not seating members of the bridal party with their SOs. Why not seat the bridal party at one or two round tables with their SOs? Otherwise it isn’t much fin for those fifth wheels! BT/DT.</p>
<p>One of the least pleasant situations I remember was a buffet-style reception where the caterer/planner had persuaded the bride that it would be more “fun” if there weren’t enough seats at tables for everyone so that everyone would circulate. The parental generation grabbed all the seats, and the rest of us were left to perch on flower pots or wherever we could.</p>
<p>The other thing that really ticks me off about most weddings is that there are far more single women than single men, and men in general do not seem to get the idea that they should ask women to dance even if they didn’t come with them. I always prod my H to ask other women to dance.</p>
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<p>Some men don’t get the idea they should ask women to dance even if they did come with them. Grr.</p>
<p>Yup, CF, so true. I was at a bar mitzvah recently with my non-dancing husband and my then-16 year old son came up to me with a female friend his age in tow. He said, “Can I have this dance?” to me and then told my husband that his friend wanted to dance with him. So DH got out on the dance floor and the two kids had it planned that they would do the thing where you switch partners. How DH managed to father a son who is light-years ahead of him in such matters is beyond me.</p>