Extremely awkward roommate situation

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<p>TranquilMind – I’m with you. Telling someone with whom you have no romantic relationship that you want to X (fill in sex act) him/her is offensive, creepy, and even possibly threatening.</p>

<p>People in romantic relationships, from dating to marriage or same-gender equivalent, have an expectation of privacy regarding sex talk. However, no one has the right to spring on someone “I want to X you” then expect that it be kept private. If, say, a man were to say that to my daughter, I would want her to tell us and all her friends. That way, if his behavior were threatening to her, or were to become so later, people would know. My college daughter says that this kind of talk is NOT “normal” among her friends.</p>

<p>At least in this situation, the man could say “Dude, I’m straight” and expect the rebuff to stick. A woman facing this situation with a man doesn’t have that out, unless she can say, “Dude, I’m gay”.</p>

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<p>TQM, I think you may have missed the Friends with Benefits threads. ;)</p>

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<p>I’m kind of confused because the suite mate stayed a couple of days after this happened so I would have thought if there was going to be awkwardness afterwards it would have already happened. So did John say the rest of the visit was awkward? If so then maybe they need to talk about it.</p>

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<p>OK, ya’ll…yea, ok, it’s crude to just propose an act like that with someone…</p>

<p>HOWEVER, it’s commonplace, not that rare anymore. OP’s son wasn’t really offended, just not interested.</p>

<p>If the question offended, then I think it’s okay to respond as though you’re offended - it’s honest. </p>

<p>So yea, if someone comes up and says something you consider vulgar and proposes sex acts you’re not interested in and you find the proposal downright offensive, it’s fine to say, “No way, and furthermore, I find that extremely offensive. Please never ask me anything remotely like that again.” I think that would probably end the relationship, which would probably be JUST FINE with the offended party.</p>

<p>Not the case with the OP’s scenario.</p>

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<p>No. I disagree. Not all young people are this crude. It is not standard, though it certainly occurs.</p>

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<p>Thank you. I was wondering if I lived alone on an uninhabited planet!</p>

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<p>God is merciful! ;)</p>

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<p>I dont think its going to be soo awkward honestly… I am sure the other guy would have understood the reason… I thiink john should act normally and talk to him like a friend and stufff…</p>