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<p>Wow. The friends must be really stupid then.</p>
<p>Well said MomLive.</p>
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<p>I don’t think I’d call them stupid. These girls are actually very smart (academically, anyway). They have probably weighed the risks against the rewards and determined, based on observation of others around them who have been engaging in the same activity for years, that the risk of getting caught is very small, and the reward of spending time with friends is very big. I do know that their university requires them to study the State laws regarding alcohol consumption, so they are certainly not ignorant of the potential penalties for getting caught. I know that my D is aware, anyway.</p>
<p>Jails are full of people who thought the risk of getting caught is very small.</p>
<p>Seriously, Oldfort? I’m sure the police have never heard that one before! Great idea, though, lying to get out of trouble. That always ends well…</p>
<p>All this for a drink or two, or paying to get into an overcrowded bar or nightclub that charges through the nose for crappy drinks? Besides being illegal, it seems like a whole lot of work and risk and worry.</p>
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<p>I can care less if they have a 4.0. They are very stupid to give their ID’s so people can obtain alcohol illegally.</p>
<p>Being smart academically doesn’t really mean anything. You have to be smart in other ways and know that breaking the law is stupid.</p>
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<p>So if there is a store that doesn’t monitor stealing and there is a small chance that I would get caught stealing, then that would also be fine?</p>
<p>If there is a small chance that the professor would catch me cheating, then I should cheat?</p>
<p>You are clearly sending the wrong message to your daughters.</p>
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<p>Why couldn’t they all have fun without breaking the law?</p>
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<p>I’m sure this is true, but obviously none of them are my D’s friends.</p>
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<p>To each his own. People find fun in different ways, and there is reason why nightclubs are overcrowded even when they charge “through the nose” or serve “crappy” drinks.</p>
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<p>I’m sure your views would be very different if your daughters did get caught and went to jail and/or lost their scholarship (if they got any) money.</p>
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<p>I never said it was “fine” for my Ds to use someone else’s ID. And what message do you think I am sending them and how am I doing it?</p>
<p>Momlive, I was thinking that my son would likely wish for jail if he had to come home and tell me that he’s been expelled AND lost his scholarship and grant money not to mention his college work study.</p>
<p>Come to think of it, I’d probably be the one in jail for acting badly after hearing that news. :)</p>
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<p>You are telling them to break the rules if they don’t agree with something.</p>
<p>So you don’t think it is fine for your Ds to use someone else’s ID? Is that what you are saying?</p>
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<p>No, my views would not be very different. I would think that putting my adult D in jail for buying a drink was a stupid waste of resources, that simply proves how ridiculous the law is.</p>
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<p>Oh so witty. </p>
<p>In a democratic society, where members of society [‘society’ for short] elect a legislature which supposedly enacts laws on their behalf, it is not unreasonable, as a shorthand, to say that society itself enacts laws. </p>
<p>Now we wait for the clever debaters to claim that the US is not a democracy it is a republic …</p>
<p>My daughter is very happy and very normal. She is graduating with 2 majors and a minor (with very good GPA), social chair for the student council and her sorority, and 2 jobs on campus. She has her dream job in the private sector when she graduates next June. I am pretty confident my daughter has a very good head on her shoulder. I am not worried. </p>
<p>In few years D1 will be pillar of the society, paying high taxes and donating to her social causes, now that’s probably a scary thought to many posters on this thread.</p>
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<p>Again, you and your daughters think you are above the law.</p>
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<p>What does all of that have to job with breaking the law?</p>
<p>denise515 - do you think your son would tell you any of that bad news? Of course, you probably would see it on his facebook first.</p>
<p>insominatic - do you have friends in real life? I guess not, or they would be inviting you to hang out with them (maybe at bars?). You are so socially uninformed that you don’t even know what your peers do.</p>