<p>Hope she is out tomorrow and on the road to recovery. Keep us posted.</p>
<p>zoosermom…we need an update on your freshman girl and her health/mono…is she home, comfortable, and out of the worst of it yet?</p>
<p>Thank you for asking! She came home on Saturday, 11 pounds lighter and still unable to speak. She’s going to be on meds for a while. The good news is that this will pass and she will be well, although not right away. The sad news (mildly sad in the perspective of BayAreaDad’s situation) is that she has lost the lucrative and prestigious internship that she worked so hard to get. But life happens, you know? She’s done a lot of soul searching and has come to admit that she could have worked harder this year than she did, aside from the hospitalizations. Hubby doesn’t want her to go back, but we’ve all come to an agreement which I am going to make her sign. She must bring her grades up to a certain level and get some real maturity or she will come home. I’m not going to commit to her education more than she has. She was very disappointed to know that she won’t be able to work her major the way she had been promised and has decided to go with Plan B of majors, rather than change schools. Thanks so much for asking everyone!</p>
<p>zoosermom, I’m so very glad she’s home and under your care. It’s a hard road back (and if the meds she’s on include steroids, a HUNGRY one too!) but you’ll get there. Lots of good thoughts going out to your whole family.</p>
<p>zoosermom, I am just happy to read that she is home and on the mend!</p>
<p>Thank you all so much. THe kindness means a great deal.</p>
<p>Glad she’s home. Sounds like you have a plan.</p>
<p>Zoosermom and other posters,</p>
<p>It’s so unfortunate that your Ss & Ds had problems and great to hear that they overcame them. It is a reminder that in our pride in their accomplishments as top students at their high schools, no matter how rigorous the high schools, that they will most likely end up being a small fish in a very big pond in college. Especially students who were able to coast through hs without too much effort may find it difficult to transition to a top college. I think this is something that we often don’t think to prepare them for, and it will not be the end of the world.</p>
<p>Am trying to prepare S for the fact that English in his mediocre hs will not be the same as freshman English in college. And after years of being top dog musically, he may only be middle of the pack in his conservatory.</p>
<p>First year blues is right! Just received a call a few hours ago from my daughter. She sounded so discouraged, as she just received her calculus midterm grade. She is in engineering and is finding it very tough. Although she said she doesn’t really want to change majors she is wondering if she is smart enough to do this. (Some very knowledgeable folks on the engineering forum told me this is a common feeling.) </p>
<p>On top of it all, she must maintain a 3.4 GPA in order to keep her scholarship. It’s not looking too good at this point. I’m sure it will all work out, but these bumps in the road are rough! </p>
<p>zoosermom–so sorry to hear about your daughter’s health problems. I hope she regains her strength quickly.</p>
<p>hang in there everyone! freshman year is sooooo distracting and hard for many students, especially if you are not a savant or not from a very rigorous high school. our mono boy with the luckier Christmas mono…proceeded to get invited into not one but three frats in the following six weeks (when he was supposed to be getting like 10 hours of sleep a day) and had a nice RELAPSE, and what do you know-- never could get enough rest/sleep what with those 6am jog fests for pledges and who knows what else. He was in introvert in HS and applied to many schools with zero frats, so we just didn’t see the social whirl deal coming.
now as a sage almost senior, he says, “I could have made all As if I had studied a LOT harder. It took me a year to realize what it was going to take to get the studying done for exams.”<br>
zoosermom, losing her internship and its assets must feel really crummy, but she is still the same promising young woman she was last year. She will find her way…and she will make it work. so sorry her mono was complicated…l hear stories about kids who were misdiagnosed and left to miserable semesters of bleariness and inability to compute. Our son also had trouble with deep sleep and rest in the dorms. Took him a while to catch on that he had to turn out the lights, eat three meals a day, stop socializing till 2am and get up daily before 8 if his body was going to serve him well.</p>
<p>zoosermom,</p>
<p>What is your D changing her major to? Were the grades high enough to keep merit money (if applicable)? If she said within range and took tough classes, it could be that a lack of commitment isn’t really an issue. Best wishes for improved health and happiness for all.</p>
<p>Allie’s mom,
Any updates? Best wishes to you and yours, too.</p>
<p>"zoosermom,</p>
<p>What is your D changing her major to? Were the grades high enough to keep merit money (if applicable)? "</p>
<p>Yes she did keep her scholarships, thank God! I think the plan is to switch to a history major and get certified to teach. Thanks for asking.</p>
<p>ZM, Glad to hear D is doing better and that she has solid plans for the fall. I also think it’s good that you and DH are helping with establishing priorities and criteria for staying at this school. </p>
<p>My first quarter of college was good, but second quarter nailed me to the floor. Had to learn new ways of studying, had no money and was generally stressed and sad. I remember seeing my advisor’s folder on me and that the school had projected my college GPA to be 3.54. Boy, was I insulted! OF COURSE I was going to have a 3.98 in college, just like in HS. Noone told me that grades generally drop and not to worry, it will all work out OK…</p>
<p>Of course, life has a habit of kicking one in the butt. Now I’d give important body parts to have had a 3.54… ;)</p>
<p>Question_Quest: Thanks for thinking of us! As of now, with one grade left that hasn’t been posted (a week since the final!), she is exactly at 3.0, which is her required GPA for the merit award. She did really well this semester, squeezing out a B- in Economics, which was her “challenge” class this term. Going into the final, she had an A-/B+ average in Bio, so we are hoping for the best. I think she checks her online portal 30 times a day to see if it is there yet! She talked to one of her friends last night who only has 1 grade posted so far, so I guess her other 4 professors were really quick with their grades. Despite this, H and I are very proud of her this year - it was not an easy transition and she has done very well and more importantly, loves her school and after only being home a week - can’t wait to go back! So, we are still playing the “waiting game”, but with much more optimism than when I first posted! Thanks again for asking.</p>
<p>Thanks for both of the updates! I’ve done that checking the grade portal every five minutes things myself–it can be maddening, lol! Best wishes to your D and congrats on the already received good news.</p>
<p>ZM,</p>
<p>Looking at your previous posts, I’m assuming your D was in biology ed., so I’m assuming she still wants to be a teacher, just not a bio one?</p>
<p>So glad to know that your D is on the mend zoosermom. Getting sick at this point had to be very difficult for her. Anyway, congrats to your D for coming up with an alternate plan - college careers seem to be full of those.</p>
<p>Finally some closure… Well, at 10:45 last night (while the 3 of us were watching of our favorite show - Grey’s Anatomy and switching to the Celtics during commercials - LOL!), her last grade was finally posted on-line. A- in Bio, so cumulative GPA was 3.07!! Merit scholarship is safe, her semester GPA was just under 3.3, and now she can enjoy her summer. Just waiting to hear about the job interview she went on the other day for a very nice teller’s position at our local bank to supplement the meager hours from her retail job . Thanks for all of your CC support!</p>
<p>yeah! she worked hard for that outcome. hope sophomore year is golden for her…and you enjoy her living at home while she puts some cash in the bank and chills out some mentally…our son lived elsewhere the last two college summers…somehow I didn’t see that coming but I should have.</p>
<p>Zoosermom–Can you update us on your daughter. Is she feeling better these days? … And as others have said, she needn’t worry about her GPA. Next year will be better healthwise (fingers crossed) , and she’ll bring it up.</p>
<p>zoosermom, I’ve been wondering about your daughter’s health. It can be tough to regain your strength after a bout with mono. Hope things are going well.</p>